The pressure is still so insane on young women. I can say from experience all the people asking because they want grandkids evaporate when it really counts.
That’s really disappointing… grandchild is more than just photos to share with the neighbours
“Do you want to deal with screaming kids, the stench and cleaning up, again?”
as someone who does yearn to bear children of her own (even though I sadly can’t), i feel like that’s a big part they skip over. it’s not all roses and moonshine (though also not always shit, I think)
sure, some might like it, others don’t. the issue isn’t the preference but the pressure to imprint what someone wants, onto someone else’s life.
a child isn’t you - it’s a person with their own life. and they have their own to decide about – that includes whether to have children of their own or not!
and that’s what those people forget when they keep begging for grandchildren. maybe if we collectively say “if you keep asking, you will not get one at all” it might work in shutting beggar grandparents up…
A good point here. They are people. Not toys, not entertainment, not entitlements…they are individuals. Mine are nearly adults now and I have always said “mom is not my identity” and god damn, that was a boundary I was punished for setting continuously.
Why is she blue on the left
The only choice a woman makes about her life that I would fight is the choice to attack her sisters.
Love this
But isn’t that evolutionary uselessness.
We shouldn’t reproduce just because it leads to prolonging a species. If someone doesn’t want to be a mother then that’s ok.
You have a limited understanding of what is useful in evolution.
Huh?
I just realized that you might have intented for that to be sarcastic but in case you didn’t: I believe the idea that working together to survive is what keeps species alive, that does mean that they are not directly added to the gene pool but not that they are useless when it comes evolution.
