My parents did not overtly discriminate in this way. We were all treated the same. My mom was apparently raised “like a boy” because she said when she went to college she was shocked that the clothes she threw on the floor in the morning were still there in the afternoon. My kids were all girls (at the start, at least) so I can’t be sure I wouldn’t have treated a boy differently, but because of my relationship drama with their dad, the older ones had to grow up more than the younger set and it shows, in their acceptance that stuff has to get done, responsibility I guess? The last two have had a longer runway to be kids.

Both my ex and my husband were raised by single moms and both did/do as much household stuff as I do, though that’s a pretty low bar to reach.

I agree somewhat with @Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca , although I always outearned my ex, and my straight daughters also outearn their partners. I did not raise anyone to value people based on their wages. Me & my husband now just treat it like a competition - he wants to make more than me, so I try to make more so he will make more. Which, honestly is the best. My ex just figured if I made more he could make less, so we stayed poor.

I guess, if you like it. Plastic wrapped cheese and plastic wrapped applesauce are a little crazy and it’s got a lot of refined sugar. If I were “fixing” this,

Apple not applesauce

Cheese sandwich not shrink wrapped cheese. With some lettuce, tomato, onion. Vegetables. On the side of you don’t like them in the sandwich.

Water not pear juice.

Those chips are (as my kids would say) fire. So good. I would not take them away even though they have not nutrition.

What I usually have for lunch is leftovers of whatever I made for supper the night before (if it’s leftover-able)

Also, I’d say it depends on if this is all you eat. If it’s an indulgent quick lunch in the context of an overall good diet, then heck yes, acceptable. If this is the healthiest meal of your day, then no.

I feel like none of these actually work if you need an egg. Successfully made a tart for my vegan kid using a combination of stuff, including cornstarch and coconut milk using this recipe

https://domesticgothess.com/blog/2019/05/24/vegan-strawberry-tart/

And it was utterly successful. Not even oppressively coconut and not obvious cornstarch either. I love egg custard and this one was just as good, even to me. Eggs provide fat, protein, binding, rising. Nothing on that list does all of those. You really have to think through what you would be getting from an egg and build around that.

If there was a study, I would volunteer. I’m an omnivore now for 20 years, after being vegetarian for about the same amount of time, never vegan. I live a reasonably healthy lifestyle but office job and do like to drink about thrice a week, only one drink (so moderate, I think) . I’m sure there are lifestyle matched vegetarians and vegans.

Personally I’m healthier but heavier (was underweight, now middle of healthy BMI which feels fat to me but I do literally feel good) with some meat in the diet but don’t eat it every day. Cholesterol was high when I was vegetarian, still is. Only thing that drops that is regular fasting, which unfortunately was a reliable migraine trigger for me.

Me personally? Group dance aerobics are joyful fun classes. Group yoga classes are a very supportive and lovely environment. I do also get to work without a car, do yardwork, park far if I take a car, just try to be generally active.

It takes 6 weeks to build a habit. Just choose something you tolerate, commit to 6 weeks, and at that point you should feel better on a day you work out, than on a day you don’t.

The green sauce is cilantro and mint, so delicious. The beans look like chana masala.

No idea, you would have to ask the bank. I called that bank the “demon bank”, because the exterior walls were marble and the patterns looked like demons. Those scales still are at grocery stores here, I haven’t been in a physical bank for a long time. Here is the bank. It’s funny to me that a precognitive dream is humdrum but a scale at a bank is hanging you up. I already knew the scale was there, that was not part of the precognition.

They had a big analog scale you could stand on, and a dial would go around the markings like a clock- there are still some of these same scales at grocery stores here. People use them to weigh themselves, or I see people weighing luggage on them. In the dream the dial went backwards but IRL it was just wrong, very wrong.

Google “Toledo No Springs Scale” and you will see them.

Reddit suggests the Choofly, 2oz Singani, half oz tequila, 0.75oz each of pineapple and lime, with celery bitters, shaken with an egg white.

That sounds complicated, but hopefully gives you a few directions to go in - pineapple, tequila, celery flavors.

At least you’d know you didn’t surround yourself with yes-men, I guess.

The dumbest one that absolutely convinced me it was precog, was:

I was in line at the bank behind 3 women. They had a scale, one of those big Toledo No Springs ones. I stepped on the scale, but the dial went backwards. I turned around and saw this girl Joann, who I hadn’t seen since middle school.

I wrote all this down in the dream journal, and then didn’t think about it.

Couple weeks later, I’m at that bank. 3 women ahead of me in line. I get on the scale, but it says I weigh 30lb, it’s broken. I turn around and who do the see? Joann, that girl I had not seen since middle school.

What the fuck? It kinda pissed me off because I really don’t want to think the future is set to that extent. Like, seeing some big event that might echo back in time, sure. But a broken scale at some bank? Joann? I haven seen her since, either, we were not close, why would I dream her true?

Yeah. Precognitive dreams mostly. Nothing I expect anyone else to believe, but I myself know because I documented them when I dreamed them, then the events occurred and it was such random, little detailed things that I could not possibly have predicted based on knowledge. Maybe everyone dreams the future and just forgets their dreams?

Some synchronicity things too, stepping into exactly the right place at the right time, wishing for something then having it immediately drop into my lap. Those I am minded to chalk up to random chance, but some are so comically obvious, things just appearing where they were not, right when I need them.

My job is ok, but I swear every day I wake up glad I don’t have to go to school. At least work pays me, and the people I work with are great. But even when we were desperately poor I still liked it better than childhood. Even an illusion of choice (as hexesofvexes puts it) is preferable to the tight constraints of childhood. Even when I had nothing but what fit in my purse, no home, no money that felt better, sort of free; now with a house and family I feel like we have luxury, kids, dogs, cats, garden. Lifestyle. All of adulthood, even the sucky parts, feel like my life to live, childhood did not.

Yeah, I run into this. One vegan daughter, one girlfriend -of another daughter who has a nut allergy. It is often a one or the other choice, I have to warn one of them not to eat something. It is hard to juggle both those restrictions.

Depends on how much money you put in.

Yeah. But more often I have made mistakes, then come back later to say it was a mistake. I issue corrections a lot. It’s harder to make that connection when in a heated argument.

Cheating is complicated. Yeah some people just will, they are fooling themselves when they say they won’t. Some people find it sexy, they literally want to cheat, they think it’s hot. Others will if the situation gets extreme, people in dead bedroom situations who want to keep their family together and make the calculation (or miscalculation) that cheating is less damaging than divorcing. I worked with old people when I was younger, my bosses were old Spanish people who married for business reasons but had lovers, they did not love each other in a romantic way.

I’d say that as divorce becomes easier to get, marriage more based on love rather than alliance and monogamy less required, there is probably less cheating. But it won’t ever be zero.

If you are asking is cheating universal? No. It’s not.

Drinking, reading, laundry, garden cat.

I grew up with the kids of the original set of Cuban refugees and thought it was because they were the rich people fleeing Castro. So they were already aligned with the right here,they like the idea of being on the upper side of a class divide.

The newer ones may just be anti -abortion, there are a lot of those “single issue voters” everywhere not just here.

Nah, it’s the fates. One to spin, one to measure, one to cut.