Was he expelled though? Only physical violence is an expellable offense? Making porn of a classmate and sharing it doesn’t get you expelled? What the fuck?

My ex MIL is great in a lot of ways but I think a good example of a middle income conservative person with a disdain for the poor. She personally used welfare to go to school and become a nurse but in her mind this was exceptional - welfare she thinks holds people back (just not her, somehow). She doesn’t hate the poor, she just thinks they are doing it to themselves. Because she managed to make it.

I think that’s the fundamental difference between conservative and progressive, honestly. She thinks she personally should get whatever advantage, but if someone else gets it that’s cheating, basically. Even though she was IN that situation she blames others who are.

For me (and I think most people) the life experience of being poor and homeless gave me perspective and empathy for those who are in that situation now, and I’d like them to get more than I did so they can get established.

Yeah I had one beard. One hair only, like an eyelash it was, not like my head hair. Seems to have finally given up though.

I go pretty much straight from work to yoga, make supper at a civilized hour afterwards, and take Wednesdays off workouts to, as you say, flop.

Gardening I do in the morning before work.

Cooking I do because others depend on me, that’s been true for 30 years now, before that I didn’t remember to eat, just when hungry. Don’t keep junk in the house if it tempts you, make your easy stuff healthier. Hummus, boil eggs on the weekends so you have those, fruit, bagged salad greens, make it easier to eat nutritious food.

I want to say suck it up and go to the gym, you will be glad you did. 9-5 is pretty nice hours, here it’s 8-5 or 9-6. Exercise is one non-negotiable for me. I have gotten up at 5 to run when that was the only option, and have gone to the gym at 20:30 after night classes after work when that was the only option. You will feel better if you just GO and work out even if you don’t want to.

Habit>willpower. Commit to 6 weeks, and by then your schedule will probably settle out. Personally I put exercise ahead of healthy eating because I know my body.

Wavy hair makes amazing braids, the middle part with barrettes of course, pigtails, space buns.

Excuse the over-makeuped model, but I think this style would be good and easy to do, if you don’t have layers

It’s hard for everyone. 60 hours of work week sounds like you need a new job. That’s not something that can be sustained over the long haul and I don’t think it leaves you time for an affair or drinking habit. In terms of practical changes: Transition your kid to 9pm bedtime, get help with the cooking and hire someone to clean each week if you have to work that much and can’t do anything about it for now.

My husband has a busy season - during this time I do more of the household stuff because he is working 9-9 six days a week. I have a busy season too - during this time I don’t try to cook every day, husband helps out more.

But all year we get help with cleaning, every other week.

I tease my husband about this - there was a Barney (the dinosaur) episode where he was showing the kids how to make fruit salad, by mixing together fruit that had been chopped and put into individual bowls, they combined them into one big bowl. I was SO MAD because what the fuck? He showed literally NONE of the work at all. So when husband is grilling, I prep everything and he puts it on the grill and he will joke he made it and I will say sure, like Barney.

But he cleans, man does he clean. I suck at that. I do not feel overwhelmed or overworked. 'Cleaning up after" is a separate job. Sure I do some as I go, not explode the kitchen, but not what I’d call cleaning.

I was a barber and yes, if your hair is long, you can trim it without training, as long as it’s not very straight it doesn’t matter if it’s precise. Short hair and straight hair are less forgiving.

Basically you just want to make sure the two sides left and right are the same length and there are no “points” - no sharp length changes.

I’d just look for videos with people who have hair similar to yours, showing how they cut their own hair. You can do it!

Tylenol has never worked for physical pain in my experience, but can’t say I ever tried it for emotional pain. Glad to hear it does something.

I do get some books from Amazon but try to buy used or direct from publishers. We have friendly not at all pushy comic shops here (I swear they all seem to be run by people who don’t care about making money, guys who already had money.) but they don’t always have what I am looking for, and are open while I’m at work, because they don’t need the money, I guess.

I don’t remember but do remember my dad calling me an anarchist when I was very, very young. Like maybe 4 or 5.

It’s a worldwide site with a sort of small user base, anything is possible but it seems a long shot compared to going outside or talking to your friends, networking, dating sites, pretty much anything local seems a better chance.

It’s funny though - a guy my size is still stronger than me and guys shorter than me often still outmass me and are stronger than me, it’s strange that it’s so hyperfocused on height.

Husband is my height but outweighs me by 50-60lb and can lift 2x what I can on my best day. I’m literally smaller and weaker, lol, despite being neither small nor weak.

I have found lots of guys don’t want to date anyone as tall or taller than them (or one guy who fetishized it, which was so not better) it’s certainly not just women driving this preference.

But can’t say that being tall as a lady has ever really kept me from finding partners, and the short guys I know in real life also do fine, so I think this is usually more of a weak preference not a criteria.

What a gorgeous picture! I never think of apple anything because I don’t like apple juice, but this looks really good.

Apples stay nice in the refrigerator, figs do, berries, grapes, citrus.

But I think what you need more is a checklist? So that it doesn’t matter if your fruit this week is in the fridge or on the counter.

Be very confused.

I don’t follow pro sports, sometimes watch the college teams or the international gymnastics amateur competitions. Occasionally a soccer (football) match of our not top division but good local team but not often. Just not into watching men play games usually. But stuff like gymnastics and ice skating is so entertaining to watch. Competitive dance too.

There really isn’t any value past entertaining you, right? If it’s not entertaining you anymore, the value is gone.

Oh I guess I forgot rugby. I do not follow it at all but find it fun to watch. And the college used to put the basketball games on their TV channel with all the timeouts, halftime, everything taken out so it was just st gameplay and I always enjoyed those too. So sometimes I do like watching men play games if they are all action and not too long.

Yeah, no. That is not what I signed up for.

We do lift each other up, it’s not a one way thing. Can advise, and do, and he does with me too. So sure, I am willing to make suggestions and he always wants me to do stuff like style his wardrobe, do all the interior design, etc., yeah I’m down, my eye is better. He plans all the trips, his mom was a travel agent.

But would not dream of using sex as a lever, because I want sex for sex.

And I sure as fuck don’t want another kid, I want a partner.

Yeah for what I’d pay for a burrito at Chipotle I can go get a burrito at a local place instead. I am not a chain restaurant person anyway, but the prices are equivalent now, there’s kind of no point to them.

I do actually go to Panera sometimes because it’s across the street from my work, it’s so expensive but do feel like I get some nutrition at least. And there is no local bagel place so I get those there sometimes too. But my kids who used to eat more junk food from chains are meal prepping their lunches now to save money, with no input from me they just got tired of it. I don’t think they’d go back now they are used to making food that they like.