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Cake day: October 6th, 2023

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  • Upper back pain is quite unusual compared to lower back pain. Definitely worth getting checked out by a doctor when you can.

    Anyway if you are working from home try to move to a different position every 30-40 mins. I find that standing up and putting the laptop on a chest of drawers or something similar for a while really helps with stopping the pain accruing in a certain area. If that’s too painful try to be on your feet semi-frequently, like taking a bathroom break and walking around the block.

    You probably don’t want to do any strenuous exercise like pilates but some light yoga might help.

    Somewhere in the OP you mentioned NSAID’s which are what I get prescribed - the one I have is called diclofenac and it’s stronger than ibuprofen but there are even stronger ones too.



  • One of my childhood friends had a partner who discovered she was trans while they were in a long-term relationship. They tried to make it work but I think that only caused the whole situation to become messier.

    Didn’t help that both of them were living with my friend’s mother and the partner who was transitioning refused to get a job.

    Edit: Childhood friend is a woman; her ex is an MTF woman. Just to be clear on the circumstances.



  • The truth is that there are many compatible potential partners out there for any given person. You’ve had a bad experience but there are other people out there who you could have a true, mutual relationship with (when you’re ready to look for that again).

    Edit: Was responding to you being “done with love” but not phrasing it well. I suppose I mean that you might get more from relationships by not putting Love on a pedastal.




  • This is what I sometimes feel as someone who isn’t from the USA, a bit alienated from the discourse online. Our politics is more boring so it can be hard to understand the cultural wars unless you are a huge USA-phile who follows the world news extremely closely.

    Edit: Like right-wing people here mainly have a reputation for being wankers as opposed to “nazis” or anything else dangerous. Makes it hard to understand the apocalyptic rhetoric sometimes but we’d probably behave the same if we thought our democracy was in danger.



  • It takes a while to get used to the new house after you move in. You are hyper aware of little things that you might have missed during viewings, mainly due to being responsible for maintaining it now. I remember being alarmed by floorboards creeking while I went to the bathroom one night after moving in. It’s almost like learning a new musical instrument or something.

    That said, you do settle in after a few weeks. Our settling in was delayed slightly by a leak to the shop downstairs which turned out to be the exit pipe for the whole block (so not so bad) but took a while to get to the bottom of. Now, it’s been more than 2 years and I’m not sure where the time went.

    My advice would be to try and avoid the temptation of leaving boxes around unpacked. Getting everything stored away correctly will make you feel at home much faster.