thirtymilliondeadfish [she/her]

parasite seeking same

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Cake day: October 4th, 2023

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    Coming out can be a good filter for gauging who’s worth keeping around tbh. Those who matter wont mind etc

    There’s no “acting right” either, you’re allowed to just be, hey. You are you, and you are a woman. Be you, that’s it. You’re already doing it. If you want changes, make them. If you don’t, don’t. The being is the doing, and you’re already you, so just let yourself be.

    It does get better. Sure everyone’s only known deadname til now, but they’ll get to know you as you are now as well. Those who love you don’t love deadname, they love you. If they can’t/won’t accept it, well they’ve just dropped the mask and now you know.

    Some folks flat out aren’t worth keeping around, absolutely. But they show their face pretty quick and while it might hurt it’s ultimately a blessing in disguise.
    Some may take a little longer to come around than others, even with the best of intentions. They’ll generally acknowledge or at least correct their fuck ups as they go, in any case.
    And then anyone you meet moving forward will only know you from now anyway, which in some ways is easier still.

    It’s big and it’s scary and full of consequence, but it is so so worth it.