• Lifter
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    6 months ago

    You got it wrong. The spouse did mrry who they wanted, it’s just not who OP is. The lesson should be “be yourself” not “Don’t get married because then you can’t be yourself”.

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      6 months ago

      Eh it’s just not all of me. SO broke up with me in 5 days in cause I was too heavy handed emotional. I went Full Gomez. I just felt like when we started dating I could finally express the all emotions that accumulated from being friends. BIG mistake. Took 2 months of just going back to friends to reel back in. Since then I’ve tried going full on occasionally but it’s always “you’re too much”. It’s small price to be with the only person I trust more than my mother

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        6 months ago

        SO broke up with me in 5 days in cause I was too heavy handed emotional. I went Full Gomez.

        Well yeah, going full Gomez within 5 days is too much for anyone. You probably would have been fine had you slowly ramped up so it felt natural vs some kind of love bombing.

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          6 months ago

          Lol More like nuke! I fell at first sight so suppressing emotions the whole time we were friends and releasing all that after really connecting so deeply was a bad choice. I truly felt possessed. Like I was a otome character and player kept pressed x. Super out of character for me. Frankly, terrifying so much happened on autopilot.
          Thankfully, I was able to get my wish granted in the end.