The LGBTQIA+ community contains so many diverse identities and perspectives that, sometimes, groups can be overlooked. This is certainly true for asexual and aromantic communities – demographics whose experiences are often misunderstood or misinterpreted, both within and out with the queer community.

However, to truly understand the spectrums of desire and love, it’s crucial that we educate ourselves about and advocate for ace and aro folks. Whether it’s reading about identities like fraysexual and demisexual that sit on either end of the ace spectrum, correcting harmful assumptions that ace or aro identities can be “cured”, or signal-boosting the work of ace-aro activists like Yasmin Benoit, there is so much that allies can do.

When it comes to aromantic identities, there is particularly limited visibility in the media and wider culture. For questioning folks, that means that there is little representation out there that validates or mirrors their perspective. Our society is so obsessed with the idea of romantic love as an ideal that most alloromantic (non-aromantic) individuals may not even know about alternative models of experiencing love.

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    2 days ago

    Sometimes I wish I could turn off my horny brain and be demisexual.

    • Lime Buzz (fae/she)@beehaw.org
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      1 day ago

      That isn’t what demisexual means. Demisexual just means being sexually attracted to someone after to having a deep emotional connection to them. Demisexuals can be horny without being attracted to someone sexually, doesn’t mean we are going to do anything with someone or about it but being horny and being attracted to someone are two different things.

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        1 day ago

        But at least it would be horny brains after getting to know you.

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          24 hours ago

          You don’t need food in front of you to feel hungry. In this case, it’s a particular appetite that has conditions to be truly fulfilled. Maybe you have horny eyes.