I’m slowly emerging from an abstinence-only sex-ed that I held onto all the way into adulthood, so almost anything you tell me here will be new information. Because of this I also really don’t know how to speak naturally or appropriately about any of these things, so please, bear with me, even if the rest of this post sounds crazy.

I want to have a better time by myself and I want to explore ways of getting into a better headspace while writing, so I’m looking around for something that goes in the back and stimulates the prostate and maybe the perineum, is easy to clean, can be used sitting down, and doesn’t have electric parts that require special maintenance and cleaning, unless vibration is really just that important.

I don’t know about brands or pricing or materials or how to effectively research them. Any advice you can spare would be much appreciated.

  • rufusEnglish
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    8 months ago

    You could listen to some Podcasts or similar things.

    I listened to The Future of Sex Podcast. They have an episode on “Orgasms and the Stigma of Male Sex Toys” from December, 9th, 2020. It also brushes on prostate play. I don’t really know if there are better Podcasts or educational material in english, as this is not my native language.

    Amazon sells those, too. But there are probably cheaper (specialized) stores. You could have a look at the reviews, though.

    Edit: Glad you’re getting out of that abstinence-only thing. Sex is an important part of being human. And abstinence is really a bad approach.

    Sticking things into your butt isn’t something beginners usually do, though. You do you. Take it slow and use plenty of lube. I’m not sure if those toys are made so you can sit down.