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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/420AshLinn on 2023-07-27 18:55:02.

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I have been the step parent to my 12 year old bonus baby for going on 7 years. The first 3 years went about as normal as you could expect. We were close, we had fun, no issue. Well on year 4, she started pooping and peeing in her pants. Purely being lazy. We took her to every doctor, just to be sure that was the case. She has nothing medically wrong.

Fast foward to now and she doesnt pee in her pants, but poops on a normal basis. She goes out of her way to hide it and get rid of it, so much so that her Bio mom and her wife (got together about 4 years ago) never beileves its happening, UNTIL they find her stash. She mainy uses period pads or toilet paper, to poop on, in her underwear. Then hides it.

Well, I have spend over $1,000 on therapy and her mother refuses to pay it, because she thinks she should be going somewhere that medicade covers. When summer started, we stopped taking her, because she was only spending weekends with us (just for the summer) Her mother STILL has yet to take her to see ANYONE.

I went through her room, like a do on a normal basis. Found 7 pairs of underwear with poop and toilet paper, a t-shirt she used to wipe her poop with, a batheing suite she has also used as toilet paper, her BEACH TOWEL COVERED in POOP!!! Like wtf?

Anywho, a couple weeks ago her and I got into an argument because she has no respect for me, or our home and constantly lies. So I ripped her a new one for lying and being disrespectful. She went back to her moms and told her mom im a liar and she did nothing wrong. I try to talk to dad to tell him I wont put up with this anymore. Lying, stealing, destroy personally property and shoving POOPIE stuff all over my bathroom and her bedroom. My 4 year old not knowing what it is, picking it up, touching it. 🤮🤢🤮🤢

I never get ANYWHERE. I have told him I think I should step back as step parent. I get not a lick of respect and I do EVERYTHING for that girl! I feel like the important things get thrown on me, because her mom wont do it. Her mom carries her medicade but has refused to give us the information for 4 years.

What makes it worse, the 12 year old thinks her mom is a saint and we are the the jerks.

Sorry long story, but AITA for wanting to step back?? Im at my witts end and not sure what to do anymore.