As the title says, what is one thing in your sex life that you would change if you could?

  • talizorah@lemmynsfw.com
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    9 months ago

    I’d change to actually having one, hahaha. But historically? I’d want clear communication. Tell me what turns you on, tell me you want to mix it up, tell me you need more or less. I enjoy it more knowing you’re enjoying it

    • pickleproject@lemmynsfw.comOP
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      9 months ago

      This is a great answer. Communication is underrated for sex. Most people assume everyone is the same but people are different and change over time. I wish this was discussed more in general.

  • deezcashews@lemmynsfw.com
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    9 months ago

    Being able to cum at will. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn’t. I feel like some women get upset if you can’t cum.

    • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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      8 months ago

      It’s not upsetting as long as the guy isn’t upset and clearly had a good time.

      If a guy couldn’t ever cum, I think I’d not like it but if it’s half the time and I’m having a good time I’d not care, I don’t every time either. Probably 95% of the time for me & often twice but not every time, no. Same for husband, I’d say about 95% of the time he does but not every time.

      I can see this being an issue in a hookup, kind of assume the guy is there to get off, and if he can’t she might blame herself but it won’t matter in an actual relationship.

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    Not much, I have a man who fucks me every day, and there’s just not much more we can do practically with two teenage kids.

    But if we had more privacy, I would sure like more rough play.

    If God would do us the favor of eliminating all STDs, I’d like the occasional MFM, that is something I’ve always loved IRL even though oddly enough I don’t fantasize about it - but experienced guys my age, I never want to deal with a new HPV again and that is kind of unavoidable at this time, it dodges condoms.