• die444die@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Umm, people can definitely change how others view them. And if person A refuses to accept person B for who they are, that doesn’t define person B. It defines person A as an asshole.

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      1 year ago

      And if person A refuses to accept person B for who they are, that doesn’t define person B. It defines person A as an asshole.

      Agree. And that sentence is not only valid for gender, it’s for any other cultural label (like genders are).

      If I say that I’m a gamer, or a fan of star wars, or whatever, and you’re spending your energy trying to convince the world I’m not what I said… it says much more about you than about me.

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        1 year ago

        that sentence is not only valid for gender, it’s for anything other cultural label (like genders are).

        How about race? Can white people elect to be Black?

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          Using the original comment’s delineation as a guide: Nationality and ethnicity are cultural; i.e., akin to gender. Race is phenotypic; i.e., akin to sex. So, no.

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      But what kind of people put so much energy into trying to show person A that it is indeed the case? Person A may be an asshole to refuse the evidence, but person B could also be selfish to take a lot of energy into convincing person A of something that might not be apparent or even might not even reflect reality. It doesn’t mean that one is more right than the other or being disrespectful. Truth hurts after all. But then, if someone keep repeating the truth, maybe that person becomes an asshole. Or maybe we should ask this person if it is indeed an asshole to not misslabel them an asshole and hurt its feeling.

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        1 year ago

        Describing intentionally misgendering someone as “truth” is simply transphobia. Be better.