Hey everyone!

Long time no post… The Cinny client for Matrix no longer functions even after updating, so I have lost access to the chat.

Anyways, I have been thinking a lot lately about the amount of awkward silences I’ve run into with others. It feels like some people are significantly easier to hold a conversation with, as they themselves are invested just as I am in our topics and dialogue. However, it almost feels like the other person is attempting a strange power dynamic with purposeful silences, staring, or otherwise conversations going downhill.

I’m not trying to be overly dramatic or to blame others, I just want to be as pleasant as possible for both the other person and myself. After all, good conversation can be wonderful!

Hoping to start a discussion with this nebulous afterthought and maybe get some ideas going for conversation skills and building social intuition!

  • snooggums@midwest.socialEnglish
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    6 months ago

    So for example, if I want to talk about a movie I watched recently, I might say “did you see any good movies lately?”

    This is great advice! It sets the context so they know you want to talk about movies you enjoyed which helps to know if you saying something about the movie is a good or bad thing in your opinion.

    Going directly to talking about the details of the movie or something it does means they are going to be either assuming context or even excessive staring while they actively think about what you are saying.