So, I’m currently dating someone, and it’s my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They’re a “newer” lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We’ve talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I’m pretty sure we’re going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I’m not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
What a fun sexy, time for you!
When I tell my lady I love her it is a affirmation that I have no doubts about our continued partnership.
Personally I think love is what comes after the state you are in wears off. You are infatuated with this person which is an awesome feeling but it doesn’t last forever. It is for all intents and purposes an altered state like taking reality warping drugs. Enjoy it for as long as you can.
“I love you” is an unquantifiable statement that means a million different things to different people. Say things like “you are amazing” “I like [thing about them]” “You are my favorite person” “I have never been as happy as I am around you” instead. Eventually after you run out of those sort of materialist statements “I love you” can become a short hand stand in.