I’m sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you’re not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you’re the bad guy/girl.
How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you’re making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?
Mostly I am taken for an idiot because people can’t detect that a remark is humorous unless you’re being extremely obvious about it, and I have a very deadpan delivery, and generally dry and low key humor.
It’s very frustrating trying to socialize with people I don’t know good enough yet for them to know this, everyone just takes me at face value and then thinks I’m stupid.
I did have plenty of the awkward situations you’re describing myself when I was younger though. It’s such a revelation once you get your diagnosis and realize that, in fact, you are perceiving the world differently than neurotypical people.
@GregorGizeh @PlanetOfOrd You’re not alone. One of my trademark humor formulas is to take the current topic and make a ridiculous statement. If people don’t know me well enough they either think I’m lying for no reason, or are surprised that what I said is a true thing, and then I have to " no not really, I was just trying to make a joke"
Yup. I’ve been doing this my whole life and am just learning how common this is. A lot of people have told me they believe I’m very smart. And others for sure have thought I’m the dumbest person in the room. And it’s probably this that has been causing that. 🤣