Demonstrators in South Korea swore off heterosexual dating in protest against misogyny. Now the movement is sparking interest among young American women
People often struggle to articulate why they choose to do some things and not others. If this idea appeals to women on social media, my point is there are a lot of underlying factors that make it so. Women might not be literally tallying pros and cons of dating but those things add up subconsciously, and get expressed through various forms of speech, including dumb memes.
I don’t think that women choosing not to date feel it as a burden either. If your choice is between someone who doesn’t treat you like an equal human deserving rights and respect or being a little lonely romantically, many will find freedom in staying single.
My point, regarding your second paragraph, is that no one should choose someone that doesn’t treat them like an equal human. But it’s a false premise that the choice is a partner that dehumanizes you or no one – though it might understandably feel like that at the moment. The fact that this feels like “how things are” is why it seems like post-election frustration-memeing. We shall see.
Frankly, I am perfectly happy for women if they never date men again. I would encourage it in fact. But I’m not really involved in the conversation.
I think that we’re circling the drain of agreement here, just expressing it differently. Yes, it would be sad to feel closed out of an aspect of life that you might otherwise enjoy like dating, but those are just decisions that people make all the time. Plenty of gay people choose not to date when it would be dangerous for them. Divorcées or widows might choose not to as well, and no one questions that. It’s no great tragedy, it’s just life. I’m sure plenty of people would also reserve the right to change their mind in the future if they met someone who meets their needs too.
As a form of protest, yes, it suffers from a rhetorical false dichotomy, but I don’t think people advocating it literally believe “there are no good men out there,” generally speaking. I’d say in fact that by use as a tool of protest, they are looking for support from good men who would want to date more equitably in the future (as opposed to fascist subjugation clearly on the table now in the US).
Sounds great, I hope it’s extended beyond four years. As far as I’m concerned, this is a phenomenon with no one losing much and that will sort itself out one way or the other on its own.
People often struggle to articulate why they choose to do some things and not others. If this idea appeals to women on social media, my point is there are a lot of underlying factors that make it so. Women might not be literally tallying pros and cons of dating but those things add up subconsciously, and get expressed through various forms of speech, including dumb memes.
I don’t think that women choosing not to date feel it as a burden either. If your choice is between someone who doesn’t treat you like an equal human deserving rights and respect or being a little lonely romantically, many will find freedom in staying single.
My point, regarding your second paragraph, is that no one should choose someone that doesn’t treat them like an equal human. But it’s a false premise that the choice is a partner that dehumanizes you or no one – though it might understandably feel like that at the moment. The fact that this feels like “how things are” is why it seems like post-election frustration-memeing. We shall see.
Frankly, I am perfectly happy for women if they never date men again. I would encourage it in fact. But I’m not really involved in the conversation.
I think that we’re circling the drain of agreement here, just expressing it differently. Yes, it would be sad to feel closed out of an aspect of life that you might otherwise enjoy like dating, but those are just decisions that people make all the time. Plenty of gay people choose not to date when it would be dangerous for them. Divorcées or widows might choose not to as well, and no one questions that. It’s no great tragedy, it’s just life. I’m sure plenty of people would also reserve the right to change their mind in the future if they met someone who meets their needs too.
As a form of protest, yes, it suffers from a rhetorical false dichotomy, but I don’t think people advocating it literally believe “there are no good men out there,” generally speaking. I’d say in fact that by use as a tool of protest, they are looking for support from good men who would want to date more equitably in the future (as opposed to fascist subjugation clearly on the table now in the US).
Sounds great, I hope it’s extended beyond four years. As far as I’m concerned, this is a phenomenon with no one losing much and that will sort itself out one way or the other on its own.