So, back when I was “still cis tho”, there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I’m still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.

Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we’re talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3

EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it’s a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.

Speaking of which… I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin’.

  • cerealkiller [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    19 days ago

    Well for instance where I come from, men are not allowed to cry and boy did I cry a lot as a kid. Got called a “crying pussy bitch” as a kid a TON. Even by my dad.

    Now I have anxiety, keep to myself a lot and I’m afraid of standing up for myself because I’m scared of being physically overpowered. So yeah, “good” stuff.