So, back when I was “still cis tho”, there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I’m still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.
Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we’re talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3
EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it’s a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.
Speaking of which… I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin’.
Growing up out in the country sucked if you didn’t like football or cars. I went back recently and it felt like travelling back to the 00’s. Absolutely terrible. I would never have kids there. Seeing little boys shy away from drawing because “that’s girl stuff” broke my heart.
Oh God, terrible childhood memory unlocked.
I was sitting at my desk and doodling while waiting for the next lesson to start and I drew this guy with a dinosaur head, playing a guitar that was also on fire. Shit was so cash.
Suddenly, a classmate grabbed my drawing, held it up and yelled “haahaa look at what big_bob is drawing!” And people would point and laugh.
I was already an outcast for mentioning that I found football boring, but after the drawing incident, people actively avoided me. I changed schools shortly after.
I fucking hate norwegian society.
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I worked with kids and the adults suck too. They’d separate boys and girls all the time. It was always a woman working in arts and crafts, always a man in sports. Whenever kids had social problems we’d ignore it (if it was a boy) or have a girls meeting (only girls, they talk it out, at 7 years old). The adults would invite kids to join their activities and it was always girls to arts and crafts, boys to sports. Terrible. I remember a few boys, kids I guess they don’t have a gender at that age, who obiously hated all the sports shit and were just starving for something creative. Likewise with girls and sports. I did so much to shake that shit up, made hockey leagues where they played across genders (girls beat the shit out of boys, because they’ll do that at age 7) and arranged masc-coded arts and crafts things - Campfire tales where they could draw the monsters I was talking about, competitions about making “the biggest drawing”, folding paper planes and then painting them “cool”. I tried to make them comfortable as well as I could within the system I was stuck in. It was tough.