This is the first private message I get on Lemmy, it immediately seemed suspicious to me so I tried the famous thing… and it worked!
This is the first private message I get on Lemmy, it immediately seemed suspicious to me so I tried the famous thing… and it worked!
Um did you reply to the right comment?
Just adding to it from the other side (ish) of it.
The point being that what you describe is a broader phenomenon and that, at least amongst Techies, taking in account the point of view of the people on the other side and chosing objective-oriented language with minimal or no social niceties if you figure out they’re constrained in the time they have for handling messages like the one you’re sending, is something one learns rather than coming naturally.
Same kind of thing applies, for example, when applying to certain jobs: in your cover letter of even CV you put all the stuff they care about for baseline selection upfront and the kind of stuff that matters “if they’re interested” comes afterwards so that if it’s clearly not a fit people’s time doesn’t get wasted. It’s nice for the people on the other side and, as somebody who has been on the other side, this is appreciated and shows professionalism which will help the candidate out if they do seem interesting from reading that baseline selection info.
Not the same thing as your specific situation but same pattern, IMHO.