I’ve also wondered if a lot of the highly religious women I grew up with finding sex unpleasant or a chore is mostly just due to the sex being bad.
It has a lot to do with the guilt associated with premarital sex. I know a fundamentalist Christian woman who would get physically ill after going too far with her boyfriend, even though they still stopped before actual sex. Once she got married that went away.
A friend confided that, no matter how much he tried to not masturbate, he would always end up doing it and the guilt was fucking with him. I told him I masturbated at least once a day, averaged twice, sometimes up to 5 on the weekends and watched any type of porn I could get my hands on.
This surprised him as I was a good upstanding person and an altar boy. I asked him if he was trying to fuck any girl that would give him the time of day. I confessed that I fell in love with girls just because they smelled good when they passed by and would get hard by a smile, a friend touching my arm, a small look at cleavage, a tight shirt across big tits, peaking underwear on their lower back,etc.
Why would god give you raging hormones if not to find someone and want to fuck? Your body, that god made, is giving you these urges and then he gets pissed off when you give into them? Just masturbate and go to confession about every 3 months.
Fuck. Remembering, as I typed this, of his visible relief and how much his demeanor changed for the better after our talk got me upset. Fuck religious bullshit. To top it off, when I got married by the church, we had to do a couples seminar to go over specifics of marriage, talking things out, help the church can give and expectations, etc. It ended with a confessional, not as a couple it’s always alone, and I confessed we’ve had premarital sex. The priest just went, of course! It’s only natural.
Then why all the guilt tripping and mental anguish when we are teens!
It has a lot to do with the guilt associated with premarital sex. I know a fundamentalist Christian woman who would get physically ill after going too far with her boyfriend, even though they still stopped before actual sex. Once she got married that went away.
A friend confided that, no matter how much he tried to not masturbate, he would always end up doing it and the guilt was fucking with him. I told him I masturbated at least once a day, averaged twice, sometimes up to 5 on the weekends and watched any type of porn I could get my hands on.
This surprised him as I was a good upstanding person and an altar boy. I asked him if he was trying to fuck any girl that would give him the time of day. I confessed that I fell in love with girls just because they smelled good when they passed by and would get hard by a smile, a friend touching my arm, a small look at cleavage, a tight shirt across big tits, peaking underwear on their lower back,etc.
Why would god give you raging hormones if not to find someone and want to fuck? Your body, that god made, is giving you these urges and then he gets pissed off when you give into them? Just masturbate and go to confession about every 3 months.
Fuck. Remembering, as I typed this, of his visible relief and how much his demeanor changed for the better after our talk got me upset. Fuck religious bullshit. To top it off, when I got married by the church, we had to do a couples seminar to go over specifics of marriage, talking things out, help the church can give and expectations, etc. It ended with a confessional, not as a couple it’s always alone, and I confessed we’ve had premarital sex. The priest just went, of course! It’s only natural.
Then why all the guilt tripping and mental anguish when we are teens!