Wait, so her saying what you both already wanted somehow made things worse? That doesn’t make sense, surely a “Perfect! I don’t want romance to get in the way of the friendship we have.” would’ve kept things as they were?
Making it clear what the boundaries of the relationship are should make things better, not worse.
After years realizing the other person misread every single second you spent with them changed the nature of our friendship significantly.
Imagine if after two years you realized someone you thought of as one of your closest friends had no idea what you wanted from them. It was weird and we grew apart.
Wait, so her saying what you both already wanted somehow made things worse? That doesn’t make sense, surely a “Perfect! I don’t want romance to get in the way of the friendship we have.” would’ve kept things as they were?
Making it clear what the boundaries of the relationship are should make things better, not worse.
After years realizing the other person misread every single second you spent with them changed the nature of our friendship significantly.
Imagine if after two years you realized someone you thought of as one of your closest friends had no idea what you wanted from them. It was weird and we grew apart.
That’s really too bad, and really highlights the importance of being upfront about expectations.