I never got why conservative got crazy if you specify a pronoun, but at the same time expect you to specify whether its, it’s Mr/Ms/Miss (and often don’t take Dr as an answer), looks like the same question

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    I don’t bother with either. If I mislabel, then it’s by accident and not meant as an offense, and if you get mad anyway, then there isn’t much for us to talk about anyways. It hasn’t come up yet, so I’m not going to worry about it.

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      Mr, Mrs, Ms really are not used much anymore. We have become much more informal in society.

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          A professor asked if I prefer “Miss” or “Mister” (because nb) and I accidentally said “ya boi” without thinking so now I have a professor that calls me “ya boi Rogers” every time I see him.

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          I would do my best to accommodate that because that would be fun. I try to accommodate everyone’s request because it’s manners.

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            Its funny, my mom used to say ‘everybody has three names, the one thirm mom gave them, the one the like to be called and sorry, I didn’t catch your name’

            Somw how it doesn’t apply to pronouns though that would be crazy.

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              Most people will respect pronouns. My best friend is trans and her fear is people wouldn’t. She’s had zero issues with it.

              Americans are oddly respectful. It’s the way we are raised. They may shit talk you behind your back but in person they’ll typically be polite.

              We had another co worker who has the same fear. Several people said they’d use her of old pronouns but in the end everyone respect her new pronouns.

              They/them is the only one I’ve seen troubles with. I won’t use it because I screw it up. It’s not the way I speak. That’s the only one I’ve seen issues with. As long as someone sticks to he/him or she/her I’ve yet to see an issue in my social circle.

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                Its probably not that people are shit talking behind backs and more that the people who really care are extremely vocal. Everyone that is indifferent or supportive probably doesn’t have the need to bring it up every chance they get. They have other things that worry them.

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        Disagree. Prefix appears on almost all forms.

        Prefix, last name, first name, other names, DoB.

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        I think this largely depends on what region you live in. In many parts, it’s still very common, while others it’s more limited to filling out forms.