Hello to my friends from Lemmy, the title may be misleading to some.

Long story short, I was in a relationship for a bit over 2 years and I broke up with her recently. I blocked her everywhere, and initially struggled with not thinking about her and our relationship all the time, but now I find it hard to think. Although I have coped and detached very well, it seems that I have nothing to think of, and if I’m not spending my time on entertainment or studying (e.g. in the car) I resort to thinking about my relationship again. It’s been making me really unproductive and I’m not even sure what I was like when I was single.

It’s not that I am obsessed with “her” or feeling anything, but I can’t focus on nothing - it seems that my mental resources keep running and forcing me to concentrate on something. But I don’t want to think of “her” again. The past few days I often thought of “her” sexually romantically or as physically present, but now I often stress about the relationship itself and question all the decisions I may have made in the relationship. I mean I’ve considered actions and things that happened in my relationship in a productive way but I keep on going back to thinking of those things again (which isn’t helpful at all).

Does anyone have advice on how I can sit and focus productively or even neutrally, instead of trying to rethink and overthink a relationship that I’ve already thought of.

Edit: if you want further info about the relationship itself, https://lemmy.world/post/727078

  • morphballganon@mtgzone.comEnglish
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    11 months ago

    Recall what hobbies you had before her. Which hobbies so totally engrossed you that you forgot to eat? I used to play old PC games from the 90s so much that I’d realize I hadn’t eaten all day… Those’ll give you something to think about.

    • ameliorability@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      11 months ago

      Thanks. I’m feeling much better now but will still reply. I tried not to do those things as I was in a dark place and now have to channel my thoughts in a more productive way… now focusing on family and development more, kind of forcing it. And it helped me a lot though it’s far from a perfect journey. Try reading my other comment replies!