We’re the good guys, they’re the bad guys. Isn’t it?

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      9 months ago

      Do you want to inform us in some words of his missdeeds instead of using a word that has lost all its meaning by now? No offense but if i would hate everyone that was called a groomer by someone on the web i would literally hate every single person in the world because thats where we are with “groomer” right now.

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          9 months ago

          Have you red that article of yours? He might be a creep but this is NOT grooming. Maybe stop using that word as it means something completely different.

          • This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥@lemmy.world
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            9 months ago

            Dating an 18 year old, when you’re 31, who you’ve known for few years isn’t grooming. Sure buddy.

            And another 17 year pld says that dude in his mid-30s is a ‘good friend’?

            Pretty fucking sus pattern lmao.

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              9 months ago

              “Preparing a person for a position requiring skilled behavior, especially by providing opportunity for practise and guidance in making the right decisions.” Now id like to see how knowing a person is the same as preparing the person, in this case, for a sexual relationship. The act of grooming minors entails to prepare them for sexual acts in order for the abuser to have a willing object for their sexual gratification.

              What you are having a problem with, and i would even say rightfully so, is the power imbalance between these people. Power imbalance can have many sources, lika age gap, power or wealth. Not sure which is the biggest factor here. But again, calling it grooming simply is the worst way to adress the problem you actually want to talk about and it is hurting victims of actual grooming. Just like calling the GOP a bunch of groomers when you would need to adress the corruption and their obvious steps towards dismantling the democracy. It is helping the offenders by derailing the whole conversation without offering any actionable steps.