It’s a sunny day, we’re outside, good mood, drinking a coffee. I try to strike a conversation, my gf says its too early for philosophical discussions. I tell her we can instead talk about whatever she feels like. She says she doesn’t want to talk about anything. We weirdly sit in silence for a while. I tell her it’s weird to me, we argue. Is this normal?

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      1 year ago

      It wasn’t actual philosophical talk, she just called it that. It was a conversation about why people wants kids.

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          1 year ago

          Haha. Busted.

          Edit: I guess it is too philosophical for early morning talk

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            1 year ago

            It’s not philosophical, but that might have been her way to try to say “too big topic”.

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          1 year ago

          Tbh your comments sound pretty pushy. Have you noticed you start your statements with a generalization and an attack? “You’re somebody who thinks…”

          Also, I didn’t get the classification bit. What do you mean?

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            1 year ago

            Your comments about your girlfriend come off a little like that. I already commented, but didn’t address that because I didn’t know how to. I read this commenter as trying to communicate that, but without telling you, it’s unhelpful.

            It does feel like you’re trying to read something about society into her preference to wake up quietly, but her preferences are as individual as yours.

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                  1 year ago

                  I came here for advice and opinions, not to be scolded. You should really practice the way you give “advice”. I’m sure you’re aware it’s a different concept than giving orders.