I’m a layperson when it comes to physics, and I’ve always been a bit confused about what virtual particles actually are, especially since the terminology is often downright misleading – “virtual particles in and out of existence”, other particles “exchanging virtual particles” etc. This blog post by theoretical physicist Matt Strassler was really helpful in explaining the concept (as far as it can be explained without going elbow deep into math, I guess)
The emphasized part of this paragraph is such a good point. The way we talk about Feynman diagrams makes many students and working physicists think of them as representations of the actual physical process that is happening in QFT. In reality they are just graphical tools for representing the calculation of a power series (either formal or asymptotic).