• Sagrotan@lemmy.world
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    Something similar: knew a girl that was wrote her bio master and she was like “you’re all below me”, one day she asked me to read her work for spelling mistakes, took a week intensively researching the topic and made several remarks on wrong sources/ better sources, found data assignment mistakes and content errors and wrote a comprehensive critic to the work. I’m feeling kinda sorry for what I did, she never handed the work in & is now a single mom. I’m far from the only reason for it, but I think that it pushed her over the edge with the decision to give up her academic career for good. Ooopsie.

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      Hey so you said :”she was like” but you didn’t really offer explicit acts about her behaviour confirming that’s really what she thought. It’s predictive text.

      So did she really say you were below her or was that a feeling you get when you meet a confident person and determine this on your own because of feeling self conscious around that?

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      Her “bio master” as in her Master’s thesis? Why would she not have someone in her cohort read it? What happened with her PI? Were they just not checking in on her work at all? How could they get so far into a Master’s that she’s in the process of writing her thesis that you could find better sources in a week?

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        Sounds like the above person was cohort. They didn’t really specify they weren’t just that she asked them. So there was probably a reason and she trusted them.

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          I figured they weren’t since they described her as acting like she was better than them for her degree. It made it sound like that put her apart from them but idk.

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            Or Insecurity and crippling low self esteem with a boundless assumption that everyone is comparing themselves as better or less than can eat people alive.

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      Considering that is sounds like she was a pretty unlikable person so I’m surprised she got enough into a relationship to have a kid

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        The above op said “she was like” which is predictive text but no real story about how they got to that conclusion so I’m getting the feeling they themselves are an unreliable narrator. I’d take a beat before jumping in and entirely vilifying someone you don’t even know described by another person you don’t even know. It is the internet after all.

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        Why do people act like assholes don’t get into relationships? Have you taken a look at real life? They get into abusive relationships based on constant resentment that often break fairly soon, but they do get into relationships.

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          I really don’t understand what drives people to make these type of comments.

          Bro whether it happened or not doesn’t really matter. They’re not trying to sell you a scientific study. It’s an anecdote. Even if it is fake it’s not going to destroy your life or financially bankrupt someone. Do you yell at Comedians saying that they’re lying about a funny story? Do you question everyone in your life and call them all out too if you don’t believe them?

          The absolute worst that could come from lying about a random funny story is causing someone to let out a disappointed sigh if they find out it is fake. Compare that to the disruption of someone always showing up and saying “It didn’t happen.” I know which I prefer…

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            seeing as you’ve climbed all that way to die on a hill defending a shitty story about ruining someone’s life as being ‘funny’, you deserve the added salt of pearl-clutching disapproval that someone didn’t laugh about it.

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            Oh cause it sounds, and and almost gaurenteed, to be bullshit. I dont understand why you have such a problem with someone calling out someone else’s bullshit, but thats your right.

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              No, it sounds bullshit to you. You have no guarantee that this is bullshit. You have nothing to fall back on. You were not there. Moreover, weirder things continue to happen every single day in reality. I have an issue with someone who has no connection to the story just dismissing it outright and acting like everyone should believe them and their opinion despite it having zero supporting evidence. Not to mention you’re doing it in the funny community. Funny does not require truth, as mentioned above. So like I said, unless you’re actively calling comedians a liar then your own point doesn’t stand up to this. Comedians routinely tell bullshit and it’s a social contract to not interrupt and not crash it. Same contract applies to funny anecdotes in a comedy community.

              You’re not calling out bullshit. You’re crashing a party.

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                Nor do You have any facts that what they said that made the story was believable. A complete internet stranger posts “She was like”… it already smells like bullshit to anyone with half a brain. Yet That’s all it took for you to take a deep dive on a story vilifying a complete stranger and defending it as ‘funny’. This says more about you adopting a shit personality than any story let alone humour in general.

                Also what fuckin party are you talking about? You think this is a party? Get outside and touch grass.

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        She has a vagina. A lot of dudes will put up with a lot of shit in exchange for sex. Doesn’t take long to get someone pregnant if you’re not careful (barring medical issues of course).

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          She has a vagina.

          My instinct says this above story is made up (or heavily edited from reality) but I see your instinct is too eager to expose to everyone just how much you hate women

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                Really? You don’t know a single dude that has a kid with a woman that treated him like shit because he was young and thought she was the only one that would talk to him so just accepted he behavior? I’ve seen that scenario play out several times.

                I think you’re the one with brain rot given how much you’re arguing with everyone about a story you don’t even believe.