Why some men bully and hate on women who post here their own images? Specifically women who have a link in their bio.

As somebody who is not enjoying watching nor listening to ads, I understand that part, but we still get to see those beautiful/sexy photos/videos for free.

And even those women who post without any aggressive promotion, variety of content (not recycling the same photo in different sub-communities), not providing any links directly in their posts nor asking for anything and just enjoying being social, get attacked too. Why?

What has happened to live and let live? Why being so rude and disrespectful? I truly don’t get it.

I mean I have a theory, but I would hate to offend anyone, it’s just not in me to be disrespectful, so I keep it to myself for now.

That said, I also would like to acknowledge that vast majority of Lemmy NSWF members are awesome and many thanks to you all for building this fun community.

  • WhoRoger@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Why is it always assumed it’s men? For what we know, it could be some jealous Karens. You can be whoever you want to be on the internet.

    Personallly I am a bit annoyed when all I see are OF promotions, especially if their owners treat it only as such - e.g. never communicating or responding, clearly stating “I only respond on OF, not DMs” etc. Especially ironic when professional porn stars are often more willing to talk to their fans, but for lots of OF chicks that’s somehow beneath them.

    So I guess this whole culture has spoiled the fun quite a bit. But then, I’m not the one writing ugly comments (not to this kind of content anyway) and I do appreciate if the content is good and varied. So I don’t know if that’s the answer you’re after. People just generally need to learn to take a deep breath before writing to a stranger.

    Ed: Oh also, we also often get spammed by OF links, as in via DMs. Hasn’t happened to me on Lemmy yet but that’s also a way to sour the mood.

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      You’re not entitled to be replied to for free.

      I am on here to advertise my OF. I only have a link in my bio. I say quick thank yous and such to people who comment to me, but I am not gonna have an entire conversation for free. It sounds like you’re wanting free titty pics and free sexting, good luck with that.

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        1 year ago

        Ok this is genuinely hilarious. I only saw your comment now because I had to look at this instance to check if comments are getting federated from lemmy.world.

        I didn’t see it before, because I have you blocked due to you spamming your stuff.

        Look around yourself. You’re on an open source platform people make for free in their free time, running on servers people run for free in their free time, surrounding by people who make content and do work for free in their free time. Everyone is here to enjoy themselves and run away from all the advertisements we’re flooded with everywhere else.

        You’re the entitled one here to think that your class can keep spamming your commercial crap.

        So no, I don’t need your spam, your titties free or otherwise, nor your communication of any kind. Back to blocking.

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          1 year ago

          You would of had to look at my account to even know I was selling, outside of like the 2 times I posted in an advertisement specific group. I may of accidentally posted the same pic maybe 3 or 4 times before I really learned the site. Otherwise I have posted different pics relating to the groups topic. You had to unblock me to interact with me (which again I only have a link on my page for you to even know i was advertising), so idk what that says about you.

          It’s like complaining that someone posted their painting and finding out they sell prints. HOW DARE THEY SELL PRINTS ON THEIR WEBSITE they should only be in art for art sakes, never to make money! I hate seeing people who sell their art I hate being advertised art even though I searched their pages for the link to their selling website!

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      Because it is men.

      Not ALL, not even vast majority, but still. Bad apples leave a bad taste and rotten the whole bunch…

      I’m yet to see female creator leaving nasty comments under another female creator. We are usually supporting each other, or just moving on. It takes incredible amount of courage and thick skin to put ourselves out there knowing there will be so many hateful people. Nobody expects thanks, like we are used to having zero appreciation for all the work and time that goes into creating content we share for free… but being abused on top of that is just insanity!

      I don’t even promote, I share my photos and try to make this community grow and to be a fun place to interact. Yes I have a link in my bio, I’m not sending anyone to it, nor plastering it anywhere in my titles nor comments. I haven’t posted same photo anywhere. I love being social and having fun chats with like minded people.

      The entitlement of getting everything for free can go both ways, you know?

      I would happily have all my photo equipment, travel to locations, laptop, outfits and cost of time spend travelling, setting up, taking photos and editing given for free without showing anything in return.

      But I do it mainly for myself for fun, because I enjoy it. But yeah it cost shit loads of money so I finally gave in and created that link.