I don’t know if I would describe my wife as I as gentle parents but she is a school social worker by trade so we do a lot the same social emotional emphasis and strategies for self-regulating. But what works for one of our children, doesn’t work for the others.

Sometimes its ok to say “I don’t have time for your bullshit” (not literally of course) and just set boundaries and remove privileges or remove the child from the situation when those boundaries are crossed.