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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Emergency_Soft8443 on 2024-01-24 12:37:58+00:00.

td;lr girlfriend texted outside of her last relationship

Hi,

I have been dating my gf for around 6 months, and it’s been the best connection I have had of any relationship and we are utterly in love with each other. Today, she revealed that a guy DM’d her who she used to be ‘friends’ with, she never replied and made a joke like ‘hes getting ignored’ when he text.

She then claimed that she met him on app for threesomes with her ex, and that she text him for around a year whilst still with her ex, and that her ex knew about it to a certain degree (though im not sure to what degree this was). A friend of mine also said that she was at a party when she was with her ex, and asked another guy in the room to have a threesome with her and her then ex, though did not consult him and they had a fight at the party that everyone knew about.

I don’t really care about someones sexual past or whether she was in a relationship with someone and they enjoyed having threesomes. My issue with learning all this is that she seems to have a tendency in the past to involve/text men outside of the relationship in her past. I also know that around 10 years ago she cheated on her first partner.

Should this be something I need to consider or keep an eye on, or should I take someone at face value and not by their past. I’m ready to settle down with someone and it might sound tedious or even a tad insecure but I just don’t want to fuck about or ignore potential red flags.