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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Nervous-Text-9632 on 2024-01-24 12:39:48+00:00.

Boyfriend referred to me as a “friend” when talking to an online girl

Hi! Seeking advice. My [25F] boyfriend [24m] have been together for about 2 years now and met online around 8 years ago through an online game.

We’ve had some ups and downs but lately the relationship has been great from my point of view. But I came across something slightly worrying and am seeking advice on how to handle it or if it’s even worth mentioning.

My boyfriend met an online female friend through a different game but has since halted his playing. Though he no longer plays he still talks to the female friend now and then.

While using his computer (he gave me permission) discord popped up with a message with her saying hi from yesterday, he did not reply. However in the same chat you can see him talking about a trip him that him and I took together. It was a road trip about 40 hours where he mostly drove.

Here’s where things get strange. She asked if he was going on the trip with anyone and he said “just a friend”. Referring to me.

It should also be noted that the chat was muted and the chat had previously been deleted. I know this because he often plays games on disc while I watch and she hasn’t been in his recent chats for like a year from what I can remember.

This could be because about a year ago I opened their chat in front of him and asked why he was referring to her as “QT” which usually means “cutie”. This was resolved as it turns out it was a part of her username.

Should I be worried about this? Last time they talked before her recent message was in November. Everything seems friendly but that comment left me with a strange feeling.

Tl;dr : boyfriend has an online female friend he talks to occasionally, referred to me as his friend when she asked about a trip we took.