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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/ThickAvocado3774 on 2024-01-24 14:00:44+00:00.

Ok, I’ll try to keep this short. My father (77, M) is dating a woman he knew tangentially from high school. He has been very secretive about this relationship, has lied to me multiple times about how long he has been talking to her. She has blocked me (specifically, I know because my husband can see) from seeing anything she posts or reactions, etc, on Facebook.

She lives a few hours away with her son (45,M), who has to wear an ankle bracelet due to many convictions of battery, assault and battery in front of children, intimidation, and burglary. She lied to my father and told him she had no idea her son was court ordered to live with her, the court did it on their own. My father is frail and wealthy. He has stressed how wealthy he is to this woman. They have broken up and gotten back together multiple times. They have never met in person.

I noticed on Christmas he took pictures of my children (19, 12, 10, female) and was sending them to someone. It’s this woman. We have a birthday coming up very soon, and I am extremely uncomfortable with him sending pictures of my children to this woman. I’m concerned that she and/or her son can see location from these pictures. I don’t even post pictures of my children on Facebook because of this concern.

How do I ask my father to not take or not send pictures of my children to her? He is not very rational when it comes to this relationship. He has told me that all of her son’s charges are “nothing to be concerned about” but as a mother, I am concerned. Am I being crazy here? How would you phrase this to your parent? I don’t want to offend him but I want to protect my children. Thank you so much for any advice.

TLDR: Father is sending pictures of my children to a woman he has been talking to that I don’t trust who has a son living with her convicted of assaulting women (in front of children) and burglarizing. I am concerned.