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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Independent_Sell_588 on 2024-01-24 16:45:43+00:00.

My (20F) boyfriend (22M) asked me to delete a picture of myself on my instagram. To be fair, the picture is me in a swimsuit from behind, so my ass is pretty visible. The picture was posted 1.5 years ago, long before I even knew of his existence, let alone were dating. I was actually with my ex at the time of posting. He asked me randomly this morning to delete it because he felt uncomfortable with other guys looking at my ass. I expressed that I didn’t want to delete a whole insta post just because of one picture and that since it was from when before I even knew him, I didn’t really want to do it. I also didn’t post the pic for male attention, I posted it because I looked good. I told him that it felt controlling. However, I don’t want to cause a fight so I told him I’d delete the picture. Can’t tell if this behavior is controlling/results from insecurity or not. He isn’t typically controlling or but he resents the fact that I’m attractive and other men lust over me. I think he lets it get to his head sometimes. Is he controlling for telling me to delete it? Or am I being defensive for not wanting to delete the picture?

tldr; my boyfriend asked me to delete an instagram picture of myself and I can’t tell if the behavior is controlling or not