I would call your relationship that you just described as a bad relationship.
Just the 2 issues alone I presented in my previous marriage qualify your “bad” relationship requirement? Far from. All the other context that you’re missing is what made it a bad relationship, not those 2 issues at face value. I was simply showing 2 examples of my previous marriage that would make me check those 2 particular boxes (if this were a survey).
Aren’t you happy that you’re no longer married to her?
Happiness isn’t a qualifier of good or bad. I’m not always “happy” in my current marriage. But marriage is often a compromise and that’s okay. I recently had about 10 months of “unhappiness” in my current marriage. Does that make this marriage “bad” after almost 10 years? No.
If this is your metric, then you’ve got a massive self-entitlement problem.
You should take more of the things that I say as the worst and least charitable interpretations, and assign more motives to me that make me seem irrational and illogical. I don’t think you’ve done those enough yet.
Anyway, I hope you find whatever you’re looking for. This conversation is very unproductive, and I’d like to stop here.
You should take more of the things that I say as the worst and least charitable interpretations
You mean I shouldn’t just blindly accept your interpretation when it doesn’t make sense? I’m sorry that I don’t just accept what I read on the internet as gospel. Especially when evidence leads me to believe otherwise. The categories outlined are not necessarily markers of “bad” relationships. You assumed that it does. I do not share that same assumption.
and assign more motives to me that make me seem irrational and illogical. I don’t think you’ve done those enough yet.
I’ve not attributed anything to you at all. You’re doing that all on your own with this response.
This conversation is very unproductive
You made it that way. Congrats!
But to actually further my point. You can be 100% happy in a relationship and still have a valid reason to divorce. How does that jive with your interpretation? That’s right. It doesn’t. Which is part of my point, but you wouldn’t know that would you, you know… since you don’t want to actually participate but just hear people regurgitate your assumptions.
Just the 2 issues alone I presented in my previous marriage qualify your “bad” relationship requirement? Far from. All the other context that you’re missing is what made it a bad relationship, not those 2 issues at face value. I was simply showing 2 examples of my previous marriage that would make me check those 2 particular boxes (if this were a survey).
Happiness isn’t a qualifier of good or bad. I’m not always “happy” in my current marriage. But marriage is often a compromise and that’s okay. I recently had about 10 months of “unhappiness” in my current marriage. Does that make this marriage “bad” after almost 10 years? No.
If this is your metric, then you’ve got a massive self-entitlement problem.
You should take more of the things that I say as the worst and least charitable interpretations, and assign more motives to me that make me seem irrational and illogical. I don’t think you’ve done those enough yet.
Anyway, I hope you find whatever you’re looking for. This conversation is very unproductive, and I’d like to stop here.
You mean I shouldn’t just blindly accept your interpretation when it doesn’t make sense? I’m sorry that I don’t just accept what I read on the internet as gospel. Especially when evidence leads me to believe otherwise. The categories outlined are not necessarily markers of “bad” relationships. You assumed that it does. I do not share that same assumption.
I’ve not attributed anything to you at all. You’re doing that all on your own with this response.
You made it that way. Congrats!
But to actually further my point. You can be 100% happy in a relationship and still have a valid reason to divorce. How does that jive with your interpretation? That’s right. It doesn’t. Which is part of my point, but you wouldn’t know that would you, you know… since you don’t want to actually participate but just hear people regurgitate your assumptions.