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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Good luck!

    My recommendation is to cover the top of the trap with an old towel or blanket and leave it open (at both ends) with the bait food in it for a few days so Bread gets used to going into it for the food. Then close the trigger end and move the food towards the trigger. Once he’s comfortable going right into the trap for the food, you can arm it.

    Keep in mind that you probably only get one shot at this - if he gets out of the trap, he’s probably never going to go near one again. I lost a couple of strays that way before I realise that the trap I was using had a hidden flaw (a strong male cat could push against the spring-loaded end enough to bow the bottom of it and squeeze out). I’ve since reinforced it to prevent that issue.








  • I suggest you tell them the truth and be prepared to find somewhere else to live. Whilst you were not directly involved in sexually harassing K, you let it happen and her parents (let alone K) will likely not trust you again for a long time. K will need counselling as she has been seriously traumatised - she’s been sexually harassed in her own home by friends of someone she trusted whilst that person did nothing to stop them. A key place and person she thought were safe have been shown not to be. That’s not going to heal quickly, nor without help.

    If you want to try to rebuild the relationship in any way, you’re going to need to do a lot of work and it’s going to take a lot of time. An apology - to her and her parents - is just the first step. You’re also going to need to show that you are not the same as your schoolmates who sexually harassed her. If I were K’s parents, I’d expect you to report those schoolmates to the police and cut ties with them at minimum.









  • Interesting but I don’t think it’s necessarily related to neurodiversity. The article is talking about severe sleep deprivation; it suggests that the brain is attempting to conduct activities usually reserved for sleep (e.g. clearing out waste materials via cerebrospinal fluid) whilst you’re awake, resulting in those loss of concentration moments.

    Now, sleep is more often troublesome for neurodivergent individuals (particularly autistics), so some degree of this effect is potentially seen with greater frequency in autistics, but I would be hesitant to point to this as the main driver of attention-related difficulties without further data (especially when we know that there are other factors that influence attention regulation in neurodivergent individuals).