Creator of LULs (a script which helps links to point to your instance)

Come say hi here or over at https://twitch.tv/AzzuriteTV :) I like getting to know more people :)

Play games with me: https://steamcommunity.com/id/azzu

  • 177 Posts
  • 1.96K Comments
Joined 2 years ago
cake
Cake day: June 29th, 2023

help-circle





  • Azzu@lemm.eetoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldFffgggg
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    1
    ·
    5 days ago

    these people didnt post those pictures with the intent for someone to jack off to.

    An assumption. How do you know? In my view, posting your own pics on social media is at least in some way meant to display yourself in a pleasing manner to other people. I’m sure many people post themselves on social media to be admired. And I’ve seen so many instances of people specifically displaying their cleavage or skimpy outfits or for men going topless etc.

    It’s really not that farfetched that people post pics on social media with at least the awareness that they might possibly or even likely be masturbated to.










  • Azzu@lemm.eetoComic Strips@lemmy.worldBig hugs
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    5
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    8 days ago

    You could also look at it like, you were conditioned to think that procrastinating/being unproductive is a bad thing. In the end, it could be that the things you do while procrastinating are the things you actually want, and the other stuff is just stuff that you think you’re supposed to do.

    Of course, you know yourself best. But for me, once I started seeing the procrastination activities as the actual activities I want to do, I really just stopped doing most of the other stuff, and now I’m entirely unproductive, not doing anything much, and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.






  • In the context of cold random approaches, women almost never do that. They don’t need to, because so many men are approaching them that they simply don’t have to do the work. Why would you risk rejection when you can just chill and be approached and thus get guaranteed interest? They just mostly pick out of the approaches they get. Gender roles might be theoretically dead, but practically, they’re very much alive.

    One of the indirect ways is simply looking at you and looking friendly. That is them indirectly approaching you by showing you that you can approach them. How to make sure that is their intention is almost impossible because different people have different mannerisms and you don’t know what the person you’re looking at’s mannerisms are. They might just generally look at people and look friendly. For someone else, they might look but look bored and that’s their face for them wanting you to approach them. Or someone looking at you but quickly looking away when you look may be wanting you to approach (they were just embarrassed for staring), but they might also just think you look weird and that’s why they stared.

    Approaching someone is not wrong, but it’s almost impossible to know if someone wants to be approached unless you approach them. It’s a paradox without a proper solution.