They are pro Palestine now ( I think it was inevitable since everybody who’s even slightly left of center and not a PMC shill is now Pro Palestine), but I know for sure they still have a lib issue with wanting everything to be very black and white (the good guys are good and never do violence etc).

I wish there was a kind of checklist or something similar to float to them to figure out these kind of views, but it doesn’t help that they by default are anxious attachers so they would view something like this checklist at my attempt to find something wrong/want to break up when I think we all here at least can understand that there’s nothing bad about doing this/I don’t somehow not love them by having these questions.

honestly my biggest concerns (and I’m not trying to turn this into a relationship help post or anything) is that I feel there’s like a 10% chance that for a lot of things we should decide on eventually (like whether to have kids, where to buy a house or keep renting etc) are things that they claim they are maybe leaning one way but it’s for all intents and purposes a 50/50 at the moment with more research and discussion needed, but they actually do have a much stronger opinion but they just assume there’s no way I’ll end up having a different one once these decisions are fully examined.

Again, I do recognize that some or maybe all of this concern is my own anxiety in relationships as mentioned in the OP, but with myself being avoidant and them being anxious it kinda sucks there’s no one in our relationship who has a 100% accurate view on pretty much everything lol

i know Veganism is good (I personally am quasi-one/struggling to be better), but my only argument to her was that just one individual doing this isn’t going to do much worldwide, it’s like the argument of voting, one person not voting for Kamala because of genocide isn’t handing it to Trump

to be fair they do listen to my “rants” enough to not be a complete liberal, and they also aren’t a LOUD liberal like mutual friends of ours are the “Ruth Bader Ginsberg posters in their apt” kinda liberals, but I think “voting for Trump” is still the one dealbreaker they would have in our relation ship lol

Yeah I think you bring up a valid point, where if it was easier to find lists of good/best public schools (and “actual” public, not ones that you only get in via testing etc), it would probably be best to go down the list and note which ones are in walkable neighborhoods that aren’t just tiny/mega isolated in a very car centric city.

I have wondered if (and I haven’t checked the actual price) if the “cheat code” so to speak is certain Boston suburbs or like Evanston IL, where they are really a city neighborhood in all but name but because they aren’t a part of the city school system they are much better like typical suburbs tend to be in the US.

I know NotJustBikes did a thing about how in the Netherlands kids are much more independent compared to Ottawa at least.

That’s funny as my partner and I were just watching videos about that out of curiosity , but I do not have this condition.

thank you for this comment, it really helps and I think for now I’ll continue to use it until (if) I have a visceral negative reaction to something there