Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated [he/him]

That sucks for all parties involved. Therapy can help but in the meantime it might be worth it to look into some good quality ear plugs or noice cancelling headphones. I relate to the anxiety that the sound can reappear at any moment, and it’s truly awful. Wearing ear plugs makes me feel a lot safer because it gives reassurance that I won’t hear anything as long as I keep them in so it gives me control of the situation. I now always wear them as soon as any sound triggers my misophonia and it has made my symptoms a lot more manageable. My tolerance became higher because I’m no longer constantly in a state of stress.

Please keep posting I love your posts!

Fr though I have a chronic illness and internet connection sometimes fill a space that most irl connections can’t for some reason.

Very easy to explain! After I came out to my therapist I felt a bit of pressure to appear more masculine to show that I really ‘meant it’ because when I told them I thought I was trans they asked whether my dysphoria could actually be dysmorphia due to SA (I actually thought this too for a long time before I sought therapy).

But although I’m transmasc I still like wearing skirts sometimes and thus I decided to wear one to kind of step outside of the box I made for myself and my therapist.

(They didn’t make a comment about it)

Wore a skirt today to confuse my therapist

Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to know that my experience isn’t that unique :)

I’ve heard that the transition process can really change ones perspective on surgery and stuff which is why I keep an open mind. I don’t worry about it, but it’s very silly to have these internal contradictions. I was also very sure that I didn’t want any surgery at first lol but now I’m definitely open to it.

A few years ago when I was definitely very cis I dug into the rabbit hole of gender affirming surgery for trans men and was super fascinated by how advanced the industry is. I’m sure it was just my innocent curiosity and that it doesn’t say anything about my internally hidden desires :)

I love trans men and recognising trans men and being recognisable as trans man. Cis people should just not interact with me tbh.

She’s rage baiting, don’t take any of her words seriously. Obviously she’s mean but she doesn’t care about that because she gains attention from it.

Yeah binding sucks, I don’t even like wearing a bra. But at the moment it’s sufficient, I just wear clothes that hide my breasts. Maybe I will change my mind later on. Being able to swim without any top is kind of a dream

I love to make people feel comfortable in my home and I feel like taking off shoes helps with that because it makes a visit much more personal and homely for the guest. Shoes off is so much more comfortable, I don’t understand why anyone would want to keep their shoes on in someones home.

I live in a place where it’s abnormal to remove your shoes as guest but no one has ever complained.

Get some layers in there if you’re getting it cut. I used to like hairstyles where I only took the top part of my hair in a ponytail, bun or braid. To get the right part of your hair: start with your thumbs where your ears start and grab the hair by moving your thumbs to your crown. Then bind that part in a ponytail. This is a starting point for many cool hairstyles from easy to more advanced.

I also used to start like that when creating a French braid because it’s easier.

My windows have a really bad design and I can’t add netting because the opening mechanism is in the way

Ankle socks give me the ick. Guess I’m a zoomie zoomer 😎

Mosquitoes have intimidated me into closing my windows at night. I will now stay awake due to being too hot instead of annoying mosquito sounds.

In my opinion, if you befriend someone you have a crush on because you genuinely enjoy spending time with them then that’s not dishonest. But I suppose that there is a boundary somewhere where you don’t want them to get too comfortable with you before confessing your love because it can feel like a betrayal if a years long best friend tells you they had a crush on you all along (it doesn’t seem like that’s the situation though). As far as I can see you have good judgement which will hopefully lead to a positive ending!

Ah that makes sense, that puts you in a difficult spot. Thanks for the context.

Maybe something to consider is that asking someone out is not necessarily a negative experience for the recipient if they’re not interested. It often becomes a negative experience after the rejection is not well responded to.

That’s not to say that your hesitation is invalid, I understand that you might not think that it’s appropriate to ask your crush out under these circumstances. Also if you just enjoy hanging out with them then they would probably appreciate your friendship after their precious negative experiences with org members.

Your crush posting is cute though, I enjoy reading them :)

I’m bisexual and exclusively go to gay bars because the vibe is much better. It was probably not aimed at you lol. Did you ask her out yet? From your previous posts it sounds like you guys are close enough that it wouldn’t be weird to ask her out.

As a Dutch person I’ve been saying this!!!