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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Exhaustion is totally understandable given your situation. No need to make it worse with guilt. You may not be able to give your son everything you want to, but you are providing for his basic needs and you protected him from growing up in an abusive home. He knows how much his mom loves him.

    I don’t have any surefire suggestions when it comes to improving your work situation. That said, I do know that so often candidates are hired because they were referred by someone on the inside, not necessarily because they were the best candidate. If you haven’t already, reach out to the people you know who are in a better situation and see if they have connections to help you with a better job. For that matter, talk to your bosses now about your desire to improve your situation and ask them what it would take to move up. Sometimes just knowing that someone is motivated can help.

    You may not have the time or resources for this, but is an Associates degree out of the question? Often times you can sign up for online courses and take them at whatever pace you need to to. You might have a degree in hand by the time your son is 18.

    As far as dating, if nothing changes financially then I’m not sure you have the time right now. I’d hold off until your son has graduated HS and is either moved out or financially contributing so that it frees you up a bit timewise.














    1. He’s a narcissist. People don’t get to his level of wealth by having compassion for the feelings of others. No billionaire ever gat there through their own hard work, they did it by taking advantage of the hard work of other people. He literally does not give a fuck. But narcissists aren’t typically born in a vacuum.

    2. Do some research on his upbringing. His father was a narcissist and did all he could to make his son unfettered by compassion for others through constant power games and humiliation. He was raised in South Africa where there was a huge macho culture and it was expected that the strong took advantage of the weak. Elon himself was picked on mercilessly by his classmates, though so he literally had to cope by suppressing his own emotions and not caring about the feelings of most others. I say “most” because the exception would be the fact that he was constantly trying to earn the approval of his father because of his twisted upbringing. Even after his parents divorced when he was 9, he eventually went back to live with his dad despite the constant criticism. In short, Elon learned during his formative years that compassion was a weakness and you can’t just flip a switch to unlearn that.

    3. He does copious amounts of drugs and sleeps with a constant stream of women to hide from any possible problematic feelings that would get in the way of his ambitions