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  • When my first child was born, we only had one cat. He was very attentive during pregnancy then left a dead mouse as a gift right by the crib. He was a mouser when he was young, but hadn’t hunted in a few years, so it was obvious that he understood there was a new “kitten” to take care of.

    When he was gone and we had one of the cats we have now, I had my second child. Now this cat had never hunted so much ad a spider, but she caught her only prey to date, another mouse, and left it beside a gift bag of baby stuff I had from work.

    I could have definitely done without dead mice, but I was pretty touched that they understood and wanted to do something “nice” for the babies.


  • I know people think they are being really helpful when they make suggestions, but I wish they would take a step back and ask first.

    I have lived with chronic fatigue for 18 years, and pain longer than that. My hair loss started over 20 years ago, and I can’t conceive of what it’s like to not wake several times a night, or to feel refreshed in the morning. Whatever they’re going to say, I’ve likely tried it, or researched it, or it’s obvious pseudo science that doesn’t merit research.

    It would be one thing if people had knowledge or expertise, but every time it’s something they’ve seen on Facebook, or something they think helped them with a very minor short-term issue.

    Sometimes I’m more forgiving because people don’t know my story, but when they know this has been almost my entire adult life, and they tell me to buy a supplement or look into grounding mats (seriously), it really annoys me.

    This isn’t about health professionals looking at my case and running tests or trying new treatments. It’s the people who see me at breaking point and ask if I’ve tried a pillow spray.


  • Yep. There is an expectation from others that you have to constantly “perform” disability in order for it to be valid.

    I can’t just not do things; they need doing. Sometimes those things are incredibly active, but I know I’ll pay for those later with a migraine or something else incapacitating. People don’t see that, or the calculations I have to make, they just see the active part.

    Also, no amount of rest leads to recovery or feeling replenished, so it doesn’t make sense to me to neglect activity just to lie there in pain anyway.
















  • Another one I think should be added is that she presided over the selling off of large amount of council housing (homes owned by local authorities and rented at controlled to people who needed them or for free in the case of some benefit claimants).

    The scheme is called Right to Buy and was lauded as a way for everyone to own their own home, as they were sold to the tenants at way below market value.

    However, housing stock was not replenished, as local authorities did not get all the money from the sales, and were further restricted from using what they did get to build new housing.

    What we’ve been left with us severely depleted council housing. Where I live and work, we have a huge list of applicants, and only those with the very highest level of need can get a council property, leaving others to pay extortionate private rents or become homeless.

    Furthermore, the rules around resale weren’t strict enough so you see ex council housing on property websites where people have made tens of thousands in profit on selling them. Many of these are now in the hands of private landlords.


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    2 months ago

    More pounds than sense.

    I’m fairly certain that’s New Street All Bar One in Birmingham. This is typical attire for tossers going out day drinking in Brum.

    Also, these guys just look British. The short guy couldn’t look more aggressively British if he was wearing the Union Jack and invading countries for their tea.

    Also, I’m not sure these clothes cost too many pounds - lots of polyester there. No shade - I don’t buy expensive clothes myself either.