But there is a systemic cause that predisposes some proportion of specifically white and male people to be racist and sexist through enculturation. I’m sorry, but that’s just the reality: Not all white men, of course, but there are clear racial and gender lines in who voted for Donald Trump. The good ones who are not that way ended up that way by either resisting those societal pressures or being brought up away from bigoted people. I sure do appreciate those white men.

To claim it’s just individual ignores the most nefarious cause of bigotry, that it’s this societal phenenomon and a negative feedback loop.

If she insinuated she hears a lot of white men but didn’t specify what kinds, that’s because Twitter is a social media environment that by its own mechanics discourages people from being specific. I would argue that the bigger problem is Twitter/Bluesky/Mastodon. Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

One would turn into the enemy they were fighting against if they said something like, “I hate all men” or “kill all men.” There are situations where that might happen on social media, but I’m sorry we don’t see eye to eye on this, but I just don’t see that as being the case here. This particular tweet is ambiguous, but I’m not convinced it’s targeting all men with its language.

I do agree that “patriarchy” and “men” are distinct terms that should not be mistaken for one another.

I don’t disagree in principle, but how do we get to that point of ending racism and sexism without pointing out people who do sexist or racist things?

I think we have different barometers as to what constitutes a generalization. Was the OOP talking about white men in general or just the white men who do the thing she’s criticizing? I’m leaning toward the latter.

Maybe, but in the tweet, did soph say “white men” or “all white men”?

There are times when hurt people do call out all men in their wording, which isn’t accurate to say, but there seem to be more times when the language is just ambiguous or overtly does not call out all the people of a group and the #notallmen people read into things and then get angry on the internet.

But beyond even that, I sort of just think social media was a mistake. #notallmen wasn’t a thing in the past because women vented in person to each other, or to male allies they trusted enough about other men. Women could express their feelings, and a portion of men wouldn’t get angry due to feeling as though they were personally called out. Everything about Twitter from its limited character counts precluding context and people feeling like they can say any horrible thing to each other without consequence has regressed us as a species.

It would only be ironic if the women of Lemmy were the most powerful people on the platform and used that power to silence men across the website. As it stands, women are a superminority on the fediverse, and men have the numbers to run roughshod on these communities and effectively prevent them from being spaces where women communicate with each other. This is an ongoing concern on c/witchesvspatriarchy, where thread after thread gets derailed from its original purpose by men. The goal isn’t to censor you so much as defend ourselves. So it’s not ironic.

Especially since c/menslib could make its community men-only and you wouldn’t hear any complaining from me.

Maybe if you all stopped brigading, taking over, and drowning out all the womens’ voices on a womens’ community, that rule wouldn’t need to exist. This isn’t Reddit where it’s more of an even split.

I don’t think that’s even true anymore. After winning the culture war, the bigots definitely seem more embolded to speak freely, at work or otherwise. Despite this, many to this day will express feeling like the powers that be are censoring them even though their political party dominates nearly every aspect of politics and public life.

I work with a bunch of white men, and I’m definitely the one who has to walk on eggshells.

Unfortunately, this has been one of the better responses among the Democrats. At least he advocates for keeping the government out of this issue and that it should be determined by experts in the field, and that we shouldn’t put blanket bans on sports because chess is obviously different than football.

Frankly, though, I have little to no faith in either party to protect my rights. I can’t shake the feeling that whether a Republican or a Democrat wins 2028 that our heads will still be on the chopping block.

Looking at history, I don’t think this will end up like the Civil Rights movement. I think our curse is that every 100 years, we have about 10-ish good years and come just shy of reaching social acceptance, then get successfully forced back into the closet and/or genocided with all our history erased, and then start to “reappear” in the public consciousness 75 to 100 years later to a public that thinks we’re this new group that suddenly appeared out of nowhere. We simply don’t have enough numbers to defend ourselves and no other groups will ever meaningfully try to defend us.

I’m bi, but I’ve only really been with women since I’m pretty much invisible to men. So I’d choose to just be a lesbian so I wouldn’t have to worry about how men perceive me.

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Can people please stop using the genocide poem to talk about businesses indpendently choosing to moderate porn games on their platforms? The first time that poem was used, over six million people died. Whereas you just can’t goon on itch anymore.

I get why people are unhappy, but no one will die from this. There is no government mandate. This is tone-deaf and offensive for anyone who has or is currently experiencing genocide. People in my country are being rounded up and disappeared. This is in no way comparable and that poem should not be invoked.

The Tessa Violet recommendation is such a blast from the past to a simpler time on the internet. I haven’t listened to any of her music since she went by Meekakitty. I miss 2009.

Well, that’s disappointing. I tend to be out of the loop about these things. Thanks for letting me know.

Awesome list! Some new names here that I need to check out.

Venom Prison is another really good band along the same lines.

Their Animus album has really powerful anti-fascist themes, which is honestly really cathartic to listen to.

So I’m really into symphonic metal, which can super corny haha, but I love it, especially when the lead singer is a woman. I find the operatic high notes really breathtaking.

I grew up listening to Nightwish, Within Temptation, Lacuna Coil, etc., which eventually sent me on a rabbit hole to newer and lesser-known bands like Empress, Oryad, Starkill, Blackbriar, and Frozen Crown.

Two cool bands with trans artists: The lead singer of Owlbear, Katy Scary, and Cab Ride Home, which is no longer active because the lead singer, Danica Roem, is now a state senator in Virginia.

My Thinkpad’s battery has aged over the years and can now only hold about 20% of what it could at a max charge compared to when it was new. For some reason, I find that highly relatable 🥱

There was a few years where I pretty much only used Flatpaks because I was scared of the terminal. But now that I’ve learned how to use the terminal, it’s so much more convenient because I can quickly update all my applications all in one place without having to open a separate app. Plus, some Flatpaks can fall really behind on software updates.

There might be a Linux userbase someday where no one other than developers actually knows how to use the terminal, because users can run everything they want without a command line, but maybe that’s actually a good thing because it’ll drive up how many people use a Linux distro.

With Windows and Mac, there’s a shareholder incentive to enshittify. With Linux, if a distro goes bad and gets commercialized, there’s always another distro people can move to, not to mention there’s no financial incentive. The more people get on Linux, the less power these tech companies have. Personally, that and privacy are what drew me to Linux much more so than being able to tinker or fine-tune my experience.

This is exactly how I feel as someone who also has niche interests. Things are mutually friendly for sure, but it’s not very easy to sustain a friendship just on small talk.

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