I identified as bi in high school. By college I was engaged to another woman, and decided to call myself a lesbian, because my assumption was that I would spend the rest of my life in a lesbian relationship. Once we broke up, I just comfortably dropped any specific label. I guess I’m bi by definition. My current live-in boyfriend is also bi. Neither of us really care to define ourselves anymore. We’re with each other as a straight couple, so to the world we’re straight. Our friends and family already know our dating history before we got together, and are supportive no matter how we identify.

I guess as I’ve gotten older, I’ve cared less about labels. Date who you want, love who you love, and be kind to yourself. If your label is important to you, you have a right to vocalize it and embrace it. But don’t feel like you have to paint yourself into a corner. To quote the old MySpace adage: labels are for soup cans <3

I haven’t been on Reddit since last week, so please indulge my curiosity! What’s the vibe like over there right now? What are the comment sections like?

I deleted my account last week, so I’m going through a “just broke up and want to ask their friends how they’re doing” kinda thing lol. As much as I want the company to be in a tale spin right now, I can’t really trust all the reports I’m seeing on the fediverse, since emotions are high and people are really hoping to see the company flounder.

It’s labor, but a labor of love.

Tell Oswald I think his shirt is neat

2007, on a high school field trip to an amusement park. My friends and I were all standing around outside, near a little restaurant seating area.

A teenage boy from another school came bolting over, nearly knocking over a chair. He said to me directly, “I’m lost, can you find my dad?”

He was fake twitching and holding his hands up against his chest. I was just confused, and none of us knew how to respond. Just a second later, another teenage boy (not fake twitching this time) ran up. He threw his arm around the other boy and said to me, “thank you for watching my mentally challenged* friend. Can I have your number in case it happens again?”

A teacher promptly ran over and broke up the interaction, telling the boys to beat it.

Probably the most creative attempt I’ve ever witnessed, although it was pretty clumsy. We referred to them as “Mr. Twitch and Captain Pickup Line” in retellings of the story throughout high school lol

*not the terminology he used in 2007

I really doubt there’s anything the user base could do to change the company’s path. There are millions of people that will continue to use their product regardless of bad UI and even worse PR. It’s not what the average reddit user is concerned with. The lowest common denominator just wants an outlet to consume media, and Reddit can still deliver that.

My personal opinion on all of this - Reddit will continue to grow and change, and it will get worse and worse for longtime users who remember the earlier years. I’m happy to abandon ship now so that it’s no longer my problem at least.

Sorry for the downer reply lol

I think 4 now. Keep refreshing for new answers. He responded to the “threat” allegations towards Christian (Apollo dev) and it… isn’t going over well.

I’d consider starting one up myself, but I’m so new to all this that I don’t know what all it entails. Does it come with any responsibilities? I’m not great with those…

Mystery, true crime, or r/RBI type content would be all it takes to solidify my place here. Many of those communities across the web lean into their toxicity, so I’m crossing my fingers for a sane place to engage in discussion and participate in deep dives.

Even more specifically, subs like r/whatisthisthing or r/toyid are fun for people who enjoy some light sleuthing. Anyone know if there’s a Lemmy equivalent or adjacent to any of these?

I grew up making Top Ramen in the microwave, and never thought anything of it. The square noodle bricks, not the soup cups. I’ve recently been informed that’s not the correct preparation method and I should be using the stove. Oh well, I’ve got the timing nailed, not stopping now. lol