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  • SL3wvmnastoSocialism@lemmy.mlJust Work Hard
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    2 天前

    Since about half of US homeless population is orphans who never had a social security net to fall back on and a significant portion of the rest is mentally challenged, the poor decisions clearly were “not having parents” and “beeing unwell”.

    Disgusting, dehumanizing take. Edit: not you. I agree with your summary.





  • I know you’re Cptn. Aggravated and certainly act that way. But.

    To everyone reading along. There is a difference in asking for a fuckbuddy and asking for a long term relationship. It is OK to ask for one or the other. It’s OK to change your goals later.

    Learning to communicate your desires (and acknowledging you were bad at it earlier) is more difficult than one might think, but can be learned.

    Learning to communicate what steps you expect to happen when - even harder.

    Biological compatibility is a thing. Learning what your type of woman or man looks like also takes time. Maybe discovering you like one sex better than the other. Compatibility is also unreliable if your fucking hormones decide to throw you around every month. It’s even worse if you take additional hormones for birth control.

    I was on my seventh partner when they were like “you know I like to be kissed and cuddled right now. But next week I expect to be super horny and I love [censored sentence], be prepared…” I was like: Communicating like that is an option? You are allowed to do that? Finding your own style and communication in a realtionship is important. I wasn’t a good communicator in that way and my relationships were more mid than they could have been as a result.


  • Well I was friends with people who never experienced depression or anxiety. One person had it particularly easy. They sailed through live without even a hiccup through Uni right into a very high paying Job in Government- Service Industries. Never doubted themselves, it was always: well I did what I did, now let’s see how it turns out, then deal with it. Not beeing able to deal with it never even was a possibility.

    Loving upper middle class Parents. No family trauma. Caring siblings. Did competitive sports from age eleven. Had trainers, coaches and physical therapists. Then they met their Partner who was an uncaring mean narcissist, and I haven’t heard from them in 20? years. Hold on just realized it had been almost 30. These people exist. It just seems they are immediately preyed upon the moment narcissists find them.


  • If you are working now, please do remember the IRS demands you still declare/pay taxes, even if you renounce your US citizenship. So if you are emigrating to Canada or any other FATCA country, keep that in mind.

    If you go back to school in the EU, like some have proposed, be advised most of European academia ist costing money. No clue about other places.

    That said I’m in Europe now and looking at other places, because the overall climate is not great. There are pockets of progress and understanding. I’m lucky to be in one. My Canadian/American friends assure me there still are many friendly places left in the US. Maybe you can find one as a shorter term solution.





  • SL3wvmnastoScience Memes@mander.xyzOr the common cold!
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    I do not think they are dumbasses. They understand very well that “pumping the brakes” can start negotiations with people who have infinite deep pockets and are willing to let them have a little extra so the infinitely deep pockets stay that way.

    Self-enrichment is a powerful motivator.

    Like Nixon, when he helped privatize healthcare. Playing Dumb (and a little crazy) has been a schtick for republicans for 60 years. I wish there was a website with all the crazy shit republicans said and did in public, maybe I need to start one…