they don’t.
they have no answer other than vague hopes and beliefs that human nature is inherently good and that the ‘right system’ will prevent people from being people.
capitalism scales very well. collectivist action doesn’t. it’s best in small communities really. it doesn’t do well beyond a few dozen people unless you start having really rigid social codes and structures…
seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.
most people i have known doing 60 hour weeks are the type who are eating every meal out or getting ubereats everynight, and probably outsourcing their laundry/cleaning, etc.
because most people believe in trad gender roles. man is big and tall and strong. woman is smaller and weaker.
Weird. I had the opposite experience.
Used to have gfs. They constantly nagged me to don’t work out, to not get a better job, to drink, to smoke, and party. oh and don’t have friends they don’t like and don’t do anything that doesn’t involve them. i was always trying to get us to get better jobs, take classes, try new things, try new places, etc. They would have NONE of it. Having goals and wanting to do stuff in life made me some sort of huge asshole to them.
I’ve been single 6 years and my salary has gone up 250%. in the decade I was dating women… it went up like 10%. and i am fitter, stronger, have lots of cool hobbies and i volunteer a lot. I also have pets and own a home. Only thing I don’t have in life that I want is a wife/child.
And when I try to date… i just meet women who think all that shit is gross. I already went on three dates this month and got told by each woman that I was ‘too put together and active and serious about life’. they just want someone to get drunk with on the weekends. I don’t. I can’t seem to find any women to date who actually want to be an active participant in their own life.
it’s virtue signalling.
‘i do not participate in the unvirtuous activity. therefore I am superior to those that do’.
people love to virtue signal based on what they do/don’t do, and do/don’t consume.
dating profiles on dating apps are loaded with virtue signal nonsense, because it makes the signaler feel they are ‘above’ other people, or that such signalling will ‘prevent’ the non-virtuous heathens from trying to date them.
people who like to ‘collect’ stuff.
for some people owning physical representational/memorabilia is a hobby/life goal
Re vamp the education system to go back to like it was during the mid 20th century.
Cheap, effective, accessible.
mostly because they feel they are a superior species to those who have less money than them.
and a lot of that is deeply rooted in racism, sexism, and classism. they are all intertwined to the anxiety people have about financial and social status and the life scramble to ‘move up the ladder’ for you and your group, and keep other groups from doing so, or even actively push them down.
a person who can afford a 80K car isn’t a better person than someone who can only afford at 8K car, but according to the default beliefs of most of the upper classes, they are. They literally believe money and consumption directly proportional to your social worth as a human being. So if you don’t earn/spend enough, you are ‘less than’ those who do more of it.
Is every wealthy person like this? No. But the majority are. The attitude is also present among lower classes, where the working-class feel better than the poor, and the middle-class better than the working-class. And lots of people are debt-spending to seem they are a class above their actual income because they don’t want to be seen negatively due to a lack of money by those who have more than them.
It’s very hard to see any of this, if you only spend your life in/among one social class. A lot of people, their entire lives, never change classes. It’s much easier to see if if you have changed classes or living in community where there is clear class stratification. I’m a working-class person who has been around the entire spectrum of wealth for different periods of my life. I’m familiar with how people from different classes think about other classes and the assumptions they make and how ingrained those assumptions are.
And a lot of people are complete ignorant/incapable of really talking about this type of stuff because the emotional intensity of this ‘money = good’ ‘no money = bad’ stuff people have ingrained in their psyches. For example, I was raised that the worst thing you could ever possibly be is unemployed/living off government assistance. Like my father was so proud he didn’t even take unemployment when he had no job for 2 years, and made us suffer unnecessarily. it was stupid, but belief makes people do stupid things.
But typically, very crudely put the stereotype is that the poor hate the rich for being rich and looking down on them and hoarding resources for themselves. And the rich hate the poor for being lazy, unwilling to ‘improve’ themselves’ and see them as subhuman animals who squander the resources given to them.
make a budget. save money
once you have a 6 month emergency fund, you can start investing your future savings.
when investing it’s good to diversify your investments among no risk, low risk, and high risk investments.
successful investment is mostly a product of good habits and time, it’s not betting on memestocks or chasing investment trends.
the issue most folks have is that saving and investing is boring… they’d rather spend their money or make big risky investments because of the drama and emotional highs involved.
Anything is possible.
The question you have to ask yourself is the probability of it worth making a concerted effort to achieve it?
but also the people pmming you on reddit or lemmy are not seeking to be your friend. they are scammers/bots.
20 somethings think 30+ is forever away.
has majorly spilled over into real life as well. way too many anxious control freaks these days, not enough chill people who are willing to listen and learn.
people.
people don’t like openness and freedom. it’s scary. they prefer to be coddled by walled gardens and curated experiences that make sure they don’t come across anything they find unpleasant or disagreeable.
most people are very happy to be spoonfed bias-confirming garbage their entire life, and re-regurgitating it out again. the open internet is a huge threat to those people.
it’s oblivion in space.
must be nice bro. i have been out with 100s of women over the years. i’d say a good quarter to 1/3 of them were horrible people. selfish, nasty, racist, sexist, violent etc. i’ve been sexually assaulted quite a few times too.
it’s just that most violent shitty women get a pass because they are women and not perceived as a ‘threat’ to society. the way a violent man is. a woman raping a man is not considered heinous crime, it’s considered a man ‘getting lucky’.
this bullshit that men are awful and women are wonderful is pure sexism. in my experience both sexes are shitty, it’s just that one sex gets called out on it a lot more than the other.
New monitors: Maybe my eyes suck, but my set of two 21-inch LCD monitors from 2005 is still going strong
Your eyes don’t suck. You just want to abuse them for some reason. Modern display tech is way easier on your eyes.
i used to hang out in the woods behind my house with my friends from the street. we’d just make up games, ride our bikes, make forts, stuff like that.
you should get over yourself.
apple is cool.
lemmy people aren’t cool. they are practical.
practical people are the antithesis of cool people. cool people don’t care about value or function.
hence why they pay $1000s for wear it once clothing.