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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • If you don’t want kids, you really should listen to that and not be swayed by other sentiments IMHO. You can’t expect your wife to do all the heavy lifting; you will need to step up. And it is hard and unrelenting work to raise children. It’s okay if that’s something you were wanting to do as it can become a source of meaning. If you don’t want to be there it will feel like a trap and there will not be a way out of it. I appreciate that this might mean that you and your wife would need to separate so she could have a chance to have children without you. Its just that important that you go into having children really wanting to do it because if you dont want to do it it will hurt everyone.
















  • I dont remember about the rivalry between Legolas and Gimli, but the army of the dead is straight from the books. There ate several points in the narrative where Tolkien seems to hint that divine intervention is at work, most notably the role of gollum biting off frodo’s finger and then falling into the volcano. Its not just a convenient plot point; its Tolkien’s worldview that God ( or Iru) directs all that happens.