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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • If you’re serious about this I’d suggest a few things first. Find a poly friendly couples therapist and do a few appointments. Even if your relationship is totally secure you’ll get some good things about it. Read the book Polysecure. Look for polyamory or ENM spaces online and read, chat with others. What you’re describing is more of a V relationship with your wife as the hinge, or possibly a full throuple with you and the other guy as a platonic relationship. The main thing to remember is that everyone needs to be equal, and there’s really 4 relationships in play here:

    You and your wife

    Him and your wife

    You and him

    All three of you

    It’s possible to be ethical as a triad, but it’s work all the way around.







  • UM used to post a ton of conservative bullshit, then would get offended when it was downvoted into oblivion, then would go off on unrelated rants and would message people heinous bullshit. We’re talking posting and commenting like it was a full time job. That account got banned, and he created a bunch of alts on other instances to get around it. It was always suspected that DJM was an UM alt, and then was confirmed when he posted one of UM’s rants word for word. Once you know what to look for it’s pretty obvious. Most of the accounts I know of were created on the same day, have the same style of weird AI created avatar (pretty sure they’re made using the Dream app by Womble), and all have some sort of vaguely libertarian sounding quote in their profile.

    I think there’s a few posts about UM on fediverse lore as well.