foxglove (she/her)

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  • Honestly, desire is a justification on its own. If you have limited resources, then it’s really about whether you can afford to prioritize those desires or not. For those with enough money, desire is enough of a reason to justify a purchase.

    Without enough money, the question is whether the desire outweighs other more practical ways that money could be spent. When I was depressed sometimes I would make irrational spending choices because it helped me feel good and even helped me pretend I was not as poor as I actually was, by spending the money irrationally I could create the illusion of having more money than I had. This was a dangerous game, though.


  • That all makes sense, desiring looking at something beautiful or attractive.

    Re envy: that’s interesting, so you would like to be able to be like women in that you would like to be able to be beautiful, delicate, desirable and so on?

    I think some men can be considered beautiful and desirable - I’m sure women would describe men like Pedro Pascal as being beautiful and desirable 😅 But I hear what you mean that in general women are seen as desired and men as the one desiring, in a sense. I think that’s largely social, though I do think estrogen does create traits that we might see as beautiful, such as soft skin, for example.

    I guess I wonder if you have any examples of beautiful, delicate, or desirable men, and whether you would prefer to be that, or if you could press a button if you would just choose to have been born a woman instead?


  • I’ve never heard of the term “LUG”, but I am vaguely familiar with the idea that some women feel free to have sex or relationships with women until they graduate and then intend to marry a man.

    However, this is very different from political lesbianism, which is basically when a small group of extremist feminists suggested that men are inherently bad, all penetrative sex is inherently violence against women, and as a result heterosexual relationships are immoral and all women should be ethical lesbians (i.e. choose to only be in relationships with women for moral & political reasons).

    This is of course not how human sexuality works, and political lesbianism failed. These ideas were connected to separatist movements in second wave feminism, the ideas of women forming their own separate, utopian society away from men and so on.




  • Hm, I think I see your mistakes, you wrote:

    My thoughts ...  want spoilers): ::: Spoilers I never read the comics, so this is all just how I feel about the movie as a standalone property, with the idea that they expect us to come in with at least some cultural knowledge of who Superman is.
    
    ...
    
    ... I’m not seeing a lot of people talk about it without hating on the movie for political reasons. For what it’s worth, apparently Lois lane is pretty close to the comic book version. :::
    

    There are three main mistakes:

    1. You wrote Spoilers but it should be spoiler
    2. You have to have both ::: on newlines of their own, you can’t start or end a block inline like that.
    3. You don’t have any hint text, you just start writing the text to be hidden on the same line that starts the spoiler block.

    It should be something more like:

    My thoughts ...  want spoilers): 
    
    ::: spoiler your preferred hint text
    I never read the comics, so this is all just how I feel about the movie as a standalone property, with the idea that they expect us to come in with at least some cultural knowledge of who Superman is.
    
    ...
    
    ... I’m not seeing a lot of people talk about it without hating on the movie for political reasons. For what it’s worth, apparently Lois lane is pretty close to the comic book version. 
    :::
    

    which would look like:

    My thoughts … want spoilers):

    your preferred hint text

    I never read the comics, so this is all just how I feel about the movie as a standalone property, with the idea that they expect us to come in with at least some cultural knowledge of who Superman is.

    … I’m not seeing a lot of people talk about it without hating on the movie for political reasons. For what it’s worth, apparently Lois lane is pretty close to the comic book version.






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    Izzard identifies as genderfluid[94][95] and calls herself “somewhat boy-ish and somewhat girl-ish”.[18] She uses the word “transgender” as an umbrella term.[96] When asked in 2019 what pronouns she preferred, Izzard responded, “either ‘he’ or ‘she’” and explained, “If I am in boy mode, then ‘he’, or girl mode, ‘she’”.[97] In 2020, she requested she/her pronouns for an appearance on the TV show Portrait Artist of the Year and said she wants “to be based in girl mode from now on”.[98] In March 2023, she announced that she would begin using the name Suzy in addition to Eddie, saying that she is “going to be Suzy Eddie Izzard”.[2][1] Explaining that she had wanted to use the name Suzy since she was 10 years old, she added that people “can choose” which name they want to use to refer to her,[1][2] and that she would keep using Eddie Izzard as her public name since it is more widely recognised.[99]

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eddie_Izzard#Personal_life

    for the lazy ^




  • I am in the U.S. and I move to a better state next week actually - over a year of planning went into this, and I am making big sacrifices to make it happen, but I’m no longer safe in this state and need to leave.

    I’ve had my healthcare denied by illegal anti-trans policies, and the state I live in has laws that prevent my gender from ever being recognized.

    This means all my state documents, such as my driver’s license, must always say “male”, despite looking and living as a woman.

    For example, a police officer I interacted with required ID and I gave him my passport (which has the correct marker on it), and when he looked me up in their state database, he put down “male” on the incident’s record because that’s what is required (despite only referring to me as a woman otherwise).


  • I think most people are pretty great, actually.

    For example, I was once hit by a car while I was cycling. Several people immediately got out of their cars to help, one of them was a nurse who stayed with me the whole time. The driver who hit me felt awful and helped me as much as he could.

    Even though I burned with anger about the social / structural issues that led to my victimization, the actual people involved in the situation were all so kind and supportive.

    In my experience, it’s actually hard to get people to be unkind to one another, it’s a minority of people who are inclined this way.

    Another example: I was once checking out at a grocery store, and it was a self-checkout kiosk. The employee responsible for overseeing it all rung up my organic produce as conventional to save me money, she was indignant and righteous, and also looking out for me.

    I have endless examples of this - love and kindness is practically beaming from people when they can afford to, when the circumstances allow them, when they’re not exhausted, burned out, or required by policy to harm you.

    Even in the latter cases, a lot of people are nice to you and try to help you navigate the harmful social structure.

    I am trans, and the DMV clerk was really nice to me and tried to warn me and walk me through the transphobic policies and what I could do about it.

    Another DMV clerk actually congratulated me and was warm towards me when she realized I was trans.

    I live in a very transphobic place, mind you - this is by all means “unusual” behavior, but I think people want to be nice, generally. They want to have positive experiences with one another, they want to be kind and warm.


  • What do you already have on hand? What tools and materials?

    If you had a cinderblock, log, car-jack, or other heavy / sturdy item, you could use that to rest the sofa on temporarily while you work on it. Since it’s a sofa, you could even just tip the sofa on one of its sides (if there is room). Even a stack of books could work, assuming nobody sits on the sofa or uses it (which is a good idea while it’s being repaired). Either way, you probably don’t need to buy something to rest the sofa on.

    In terms of re-attaching the leg to the sofa, it depends on what you are working with, whether there is a way to screw something into the leg. Imagining a wooden leg, I could imagine drilling a hole into the leg and into the sofa, then driving a wooden dowel into the leg and putting wood glue into the hole and around the dowel and then softly tapping the leg into the hole you made into the sofa - the dowel going in the hole, I mean. Sometimes screws can be driven in at angles, or you can make or use brackets that screw into both.