frankfurt_schoolgirl [she/her]

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Cake day: July 25th, 2022

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  • They want to replace posting with AI slop. On Facebook, they’ve noticed that even really lame and obvious AI stuff gets lots of engagement from people who don’t understand it. Since engagement is the only thing they care about, they think they can literally replace content creators and posters with AI and keep people logged on, browsing their own personal slop algorithm, forever. It’s expensive to run AI, but less expensive than paying content creators or moderating / censoring. But they haven’t quite figured out how to make this happen yet, so they’re experimenting with different modes. Maybe the AI pretends to be a person, or maybe something else.











  • So I tried dating t4t poly dating for the first time, and it’s been like kind of a mess.

    Basically when I told my friend about the person I was dating, he warned me saying that his ex had had a bad experience with her. I asked her about this, and she told me a different version of the sorry, and that the friend’s ex had been spreading rumors about my date for years to cover up her own abuse.

    So both the person I was dating and the accuser are poly. I was contacted by other partners of both of these people to support their partner and tell me bad things abpit the other person. There is apparently a lot of history here. I have no way of knowing who did the wrong thing here or what really happened. But I do know what I feel like I am involved in some sort of feud between two polycules, lasting several years at least, which is ridiculous and I hate it.

    Even without the feud, I found it very off-putting that as soon as there was a problem between the person I was dating and myself her other partners immediately stepped in. One of them wanted to set up a meeting so that we could discuss the things I had been told and they could “take action”. I had never met this other person before. She is cis, which is fine I guess but I am exclusively t4t and I really hate the idea of involving a random cis person in my relationship. Honestly it felt like I was getting emails from HR or something.

    I’m not against being poly, or having an open relationship, or dating someone who is. But like it seems really weird and unfair that this person’s other partners will immediately get involved when I haven’t even met them before, and I don’t have any other partners of my own at the moment.

    I’m definitely done with this whole mess, and I hope to avoid these people in the future. But I imagine there are people here who have had good experiences with this type of thing. So like how is it supposed to work? Should I have met the other partners sooner? Should I not date someone when I’m not really interested in a relationship with their other parents? Idk






  • I think most people absorb a puritan idea of “removed” from society. Even like liberals, queer people, and sex nerds (people into kink) will have a version of this. For the right, it’s usually a very misogynistic idea about how female sexuality and anything gay is evil. And this is usually what makes conservatives want to quit porn, though sometimes they won’t admit it and they’ll talk about like their essence or whatever.

    So like you don’t need to quite porn for the right reasons, you can just do it. But maybe spend some time thinking why you want to do it, and if it’s because of some idea of removed or shame then you should also think about it you really want to hold those ideas, because they will ultimately make you just as miserable as the porn did.