Contact me on matrix chat: @nikaaa:tchncs.de

  • 244 Posts
  • 5.64K Comments
Joined 2 years ago
cake
Cake day: 12 January 2024

help-circle





















  • as to what you should do, well, this really really really depends a lot on context that is not written in your post so i can only guess here.

    basically, you should make a plan of where you intend to go in the next few years, and check whether that’s compatible with what she wants. like, if you both just so randomly happen to want to live in austin and study sea biology then maybe moving together would make sense. if you already know you’re going to work abroad while she hates travelling, well i guess there’s no chance to stay together.

    maybe ask her about her interests and where she wants to go, and check whether that’s something that you can relate to and whether it makes sense to walk some path together.


  • secondly i relate to your post a lot. i had an autistic gf too some years ago and some things that you write really remember me of back then. like the

    The first week felt unreal. She asked for me to sleep in her room every night, wanted tons of cuddles and even wanted to try kissing- something she said she’d never do. Shes was also researching apartments every day and always talking about wanting to move out as soon as possible.

    i think she’s never made these experiences with anybody who she found even remotely relatable to so when you meet somebody for the first time that you can relate to, things happen very quickly. i think it’s important for young people to experiment around but also give her space to explore herself and her environment without forcing her to be “consistent” - i.e. don’t expect a fixed relationship just because somebody wants to explore relationships with other people for a bit.