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2·1 day agoAre you a palaeoclimatologist who is struggling to convince someone of something?
For sure. Quitting is not an option for many… Job security is hard to come by in a lot of places. I don’t think you need to state reasons for it not doing it, it’s enough to know you’ve considered it and it doesn’t seem viable to you.
There’s a journaling format that I really rate call “jackal journalling”, invented by Kate Raffin, and based on NVC. It’s basically what you say - brain dump of abusive/judgemental thoughts, but with an added layer of going back and analysing the feelings associated with each thought, and trying to identify the unmet needs they express. It can be really helpful for turning a head full of anger/despair/whatever bad thoughts into a useful assessment, and it can help give direction as to what to do next too.
That sounds fucked, dude. Best of luck with your complaint.
TBH now that you say this, it sounds like might be in a similar situation to me at my last job, which I persevered with for 3 years of riding burn-out (because the work was almost ideal for me, and the people were mostly amazing), and then quit.
There’s already lots of other good suggestions here, but one point that might be worth noting: I think there are two different purposes types of therapy: psychological help (e.g. understanding your own brain, and figuring out ways to change it), and counselling (listening to your problems, and probably offering some professional guidance).
It sounds to me that given the circumstances you describe above, counselling is probably more immediately valuable - what you really need to do is to get some clear external perspective on your situation, from someone with whom you can share details privately. A good counsellor should be able to help you find multiple paths out of your predicament (you might also benefit from seeing multiple different counsellors, since they will all provide different perspectives). In my experience this really helps to ground your understanding, and helps answer the “Is it me, or them, or something else that’s the problem?” question.
IF that process provides more indication that your angry outburst are because of what’s going on in your head, and not just a fairly justified response to a shit situation, THEN maybe it’s a good indication that you should look in to psychology or anger management approaches, or similar. If your angry outburst have existed prior to this work situation, then perhaps you could skip the counselling step, but it still might be worth it.
At my last job I was having angry reactive outbursts (which I had had in the past, but to a much lesser degree, and they were now spilling over onto family and friends), and getting anxiety (which had never happened before). I saw a few psychs and counsellors, and the last one I saw while at work said something like “If you anxiety is about a real work problem, and not an imagined/exaggerated/catastrophised problem, then it’s not anxiety, it’s stress”. That really tripped a switch in my mind, and made the decision to quit super clear. Immediately after handing in my resignation my anxiety levels dropped off a cliff, and my anger slowly dropped back to tolerable levels over the following months.
1·2 days agoWhite house paint still had lead in it in Australia, just at much lower levels than before the ban
How much of the situation is within your control?
Perhaps you can’t change the supervisor. You can still leave.
Or perhaps you can change the supervisor (e.g. talk to someone else in the org and get help).
Or perhaps the way you’re reacting is part of the problem, and that is amplifying the problem, and perhaps you can change something about how you’re acting, to reduce the problem.
There are always multiple ways to change a situation, but you have to actively seek them out yourself. People on the internet might give you useful ideas (there are lots in this thread), but they don’t have the full context, so they can’t give you off-the-shelf answers.
Oh, absolutely. I just worry that American authorities won’t see it that way.
The board game is amazing. Really cool asymmetric mechanics, which really strongly tie into the theme.
I’d be pretty interested to see how this compares with Defenders Of The Wild Almanac - there’s a bit of theme overlap.
1·2 days agoYour ethical choice to not just steal it is the only thing stopping you.
Is this about his mental health, or just about his shit working conditions?
1·2 days agoThe same thing should apply to private property, especially in cities.
Pretty sure it was so publishers (printing press owners) could have a guaranteed profit. Those two things (publisher and artist profits) were correlated at the time. Not so much anymore. Streaming/subscription mentality is like planned obsolescence for IP.
Sounds like a risky move
4·2 days agoPeople who study sea ice. But yeah, things aren’t looking good for penguins.
They should get rid of the windows too.
Just came back from a climate science conference in Aus. The sea-ice people were not optimistic.
How often do you think it would need to supply a whole state? Australian states are massive.
I’m in NSW, and from memory, I can think of a few power outages that took down a few tens of thousands of homes for a few days. Most are much smaller. That’s in a state with a couple of million homes. So at most a few percent of the state. So even in a worst case scenario maybe you still get a day at full power. If you ration it out to essential services, then a lot longer.
This is all ignoring the fact that most outages are grid related, not generation related, which means that nuclear would be of no help, but a somewhat distributed battery backup system could be massively useful.
Lucky you can’t, I guess?