ratboy [they/them]

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Cake day: August 17th, 2023

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  • It being alien food is exactly why we bought it lol.

    It was a fucking PAIN IN THE ASS to cut and peel before cooking, I got maybe 1/5th done if even that in like 20 minutes lol. So I roasted it halved and that obviously helped.

    As far as taste, I’m already not a huge fan of squash so to me it was just bland and…not very good? Idk what to compare it to, not sweet really and has this characteristic squash taste that I just cant describe that typically turns me off. My favorite is Red Kuri squash. I also like sweeter pumpkins and I like either butternut or acorn but not both lol. So yeah wouldn’t recommend, was an experiment though






  • I’m with you. I’m not a fan of the gossip name but it’s not something I’d want to fight for myself. That doesn’t change that it IS something that many women/femmes do want say in though, and while I think Lyudmila has done a much much better job at moderating this it still feels kinda like the post is falling short.

    However, I know Carcosa DID mention creating a Matrix chat where there can be a lot more user participation. Idk where the comment is, but hopefully they are just taking one step at a time and will address these issues one by one once the admin/mods have their feet beneath them





  • Oh fuck nahh I would probably crack myself I’m the head with the board or get yelled at by a local lmao. I used to live near the beach so had a few close call things that stress me out - went sailing and dropped anchor at a mile marker to swim. Learned later that there were sharks chillin there. Another one I went swimming alone when it was choppy, being was too confident in my skills, too late to seim into the wave and Poseidon tossed me to the bottom of the ocean 3 times before deciding he didn’t want me and hurled me back to shore. Definitely thought I was going to die lol.

    Did you surf often?









  • I think moving forward it could be really helpful for there to be one-on-one conversations with people who fuck up, would be very useful for us ND folks for sure. And then maybe a self crit post after private discussion if warranted? Idk that might be way too much emotional labor for mods/admins but could be really good for the culture and good for the people who are saying problematic shit without realizing it

    Sending this to you bc the end of your post felt like it’s calling for something like that



  • Gotcha, okay if that was posted somewhere in the comments I totally missed it obviously and I’ll edit my comment to reflect that to avoid the rumor mill from circulating.

    Also, I do wanna say that having to handle all of this must be tremendously stressful and I appreciate you really trying to hold it all together. I really don’t think a lot of the grievances aired were aimed at you personally and I hope you were able to separate that for your own mental health. I do agree with a lot of points made by users as this thing devolved but I also believe that some people were doing way too much in the beginning and took it way overboard. I wish that the conversation could’ve been more productive. I truly believe that yall are taking this feedback into consideration, and to me Lyudmila’s post really speaks to that more than anything. Seems to me that having a broader conversation, or town hall as you will, about conduct of both users and mods can really strengthen this place and hopefully the site can become more welcoming to the people who feel turned off by it because that’s IMPORTANT! Undoing all if the -isms is an every day practice, it’s short sighted to think it has been or ever will be “fixed” but maybe moving into the future there can be regular, ongoing feedback sessions about the health of the site with the broader community??

    Anyway sorry for the ramble from someone who lurks, just wanna say thank you for maintaining a place that has felt so comfy and has been a refuge from the libs during dark times

    cuddle