Parent of a child that died of SUDC, and spreading awareness of SUDC. Not a representative of the SUDC foundation.
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3·5 months agoThese posts are about maintaining mental health, not achieving it. If you’re deeply depressed or have other serious things going on, you should talk to a professional.
Everybody’s different, and each approach helps everyone differently. You might appreciate this perspective more:
What have you got to lose?
You know, you come from nothing
You’re going back to nothing
What have you lost? Nothing!
Always look on the bright side of life
This post is about maintenance mode. Suicidal ideation is emergency mode, and these steps would not be appropriate. If you or anyone else reading this are having suicidal ideation, please talk to someone qualified. In the US, you can dial
9-8-8.
Sorry, missed the notification on this, but here’s a virtual hug for you: 🫂
Hopefully you got some in-person hugs as well
Note that like the 5 Stages of Grief that you’ve probably head of, this is an oversimplistic model. The reality involves a lot of bouncing between each of these at various times to various degrees. This book explains the process from the perspective of neuroscience and talks about a better model:
The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss
And this book talks about it more from a social perspective:
I found my three year old unresponsive during a nap and knew he was dead, but had to try my best to comfort my wife as she broke down screaming while trying to resuscitate him. It’s still hard to think about.
If this happens to someone you know, please let them know about SUDC (Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood). It’s like SIDS but for children older than 1 year. The SUDC Foundation has a website at https://sudc.org/ and provides community for parents, grandparents and siblings that have gone through it. In my case, having community might’ve been lifesaving.
Sorry to come across like a PSA, but March will be SUDC Awareness Month, and this post made me think of it. I’ll be posting about it over in !sudc@midwest.social. It’s not exactly an upbeat Lemmy community, but I hope that it can help anybody else going through the same thing find the community they need.